I'm a married woman with a 2 year old son ,who has been sleeping with us since birth and its hard to get him

Question

to sleep by himself. So I need some advice on how to get him to sleep by himself because 3 is a crowd.

Answer 1

I am the mother of 3 teen girls , I had this problem with my youngest. I cured this by doing the following...... put a TV and CD player in her room. about bed time go in put his favorite movie in lay there with him and watch it till he falls asleep .. then get up go to bed. in your room . once you get him use to this routine eventually you will not have to watch with him just put the movie in. if he wants to watch in your room you have to be firm and tell him no if he want to watch his movie it will be in his room or not at all. it took me one week to break my daughter at age 1 1/2 of climbing in bed with me. she wanted to watch her movie more than sleeping in my bed......

Answer 2

This is a good one LOL! I have had given birth to 7 children. They range in age 3 to 24 years. The 3 and 4 year old still sleep with us LOL. Only when its bedtime, we lie down with them in their beds until they fall asleep and then go to bed. ALWAYS at some point in the night they work their way back into our bed but its ok. The sex has already happened and all is well. I am a firm believer in the family bed. My other kids naturally gravitated to their own beds around 5 years of age. If adults NEED each other to sleep with and are LONELY if the other one is away on business or something, just imagine how it must feel for a little 2 year old baby, afraid of the dark, the silence and the lonlieness. Of course they want to sleep where they feel safe and secure. We all do. Now I'm gonna have 50 people chastise my answer.

Answer 3

Put him in his own room,as your laying him down tell him that he is big enough to sleep in his own room now.Read him a story from one of his favorite books.if he is still awake after that sing him a song,even if you have to make up one.When he goes to sleep,you or your husband may have to comfort him again.Don't stress over it just do it because you are now forming a different habit.One that you too can live with mush better than your son being in your bed.It will take a little time for him to get use to it,but it will all be worth it in the end.

Answer 4

You have absolutely, positively let this go on too long. Put him in his own bed TONIGHT, read him a story and out you go. YOU are the parent, what YOU say goes. If he cries, so be it. He WILL get over it if you DO NOT give into him in any way, shape or form. Your husband is entitled to alone time with you. No exceptions like if Daddy is away for the night, etc., you are entitled to alone time separate from your son. You are the teacher and are to guide his life, he is not to run yours !

Answer 5

u can try buying him a new "big boy bed", u know take him to a childrens furniture store and have him pick out a new bed that he would like to sleep on. or u can sleep with him in his bed the 1st night, then the 2nd night sleep on a chair next to his bed but when he falls asleep, obviously leave, then 3rd night sleep by his door, then the 4th night sleep outside his room, then the 5th night sleep in ur room. Good Luck!

Answer 6

i went through the exact same thing with my son. he's 3 now and been sleeping in his own bed for the past year. you may or may not want to do this but i went cold turkey with him. i told him that day that at bedtime he's sleeping in his own bed. i sat in a chair next to the door silent until he fell asleep. he cried many many nights, sometimes he wouldn't go to bed for an hour!! but it's important, you HAVE TO be consistent. don't talk to him. don't let him get out of his bed. once he realized that i wasn't giving in, i moved the chair to right outside his bedroom door. he couldn't see me but i was there. once he got used to that, i went to my own bed. and whenever he would get out of his bed, i would scold him and send him right back. i fought the will of a very determined little boy and won! the whole process took about 3 months and it was NOT easy at all. but it was worth it. today, i can just say it's bed time and he goes upstairs and climbs in bed and goes to sleep. be strong, you can do it! whatever you do, DON'T GIVE IN, not even once b/c if you do, you just told him by your actions that the more persistent he is, he will get what he wants!

Answer 7

Time for Junior to get his own BIG BOY BED.

After 2, no child should sleep in a parents bed every night, unless they are afraid of thunderstarms and need a bit more time to learn to deal with it on there own. Sounds like Junior owns his parents. He is getting his way. Not healthy for anyone. Has to learn to be on his own early in life or he will have a horrible life full og mental and emotional illness and will not be able to take care of himself.

Answer 8

Put the child in a separate bedroom. Make before bed time interesting by playing with the child in his room, telling him stories and give confidence to the child that he can sleep on his bed without putting too much pressure on him.

Answer 9

you have to be consistant. everynight, have him eat a heavy meal, make a ritual. bathtime, drink a cup of hot chocolate, read a story, have him turn on his own nightlight and turn off the main bedroom light, tuck him in. Then, BOTH you and dad say goodnight and close the door.
when he gets up, follow him back to his bed. each parent takes a turn doing this. this will go on for days. trust me. give yourself at least two weeks for the program to work. you have a 2 year habit to break. keep in mind, have your son go to bed 2 hours before you do this. If you do this at your bedtime, he will only annoy you by waking you out of your sleep and out of frustration you will give in. Good luck and remember, YOU don't give in. It will happen.

Answer 10

Convince him that he's a big boy now that he gets to sleep in his very own big boy bed. If that dosen't work, take him to your family doctor and see what he or she says. Good Luck!