i dont know what to do anymore i really dont, my parents spoil me and i dont even realise it they would do anything for me, but how do i repay them talking back to them, sewaring at them, biting their heads off, but i cant stand my bro he gets angry and just has a go at me and rips my head off its what i deserve but i hate it when he tells me what he thinks about me...but i couldnt agree less, im a ******* useless person, wen me and him are angry we go for eachother and i nearly hit him i wouldnt step down and nor would he and my dad had to get invovled to try stop it...i really hate the way i am and how i treat everyone i dont mean to do it but i do i, but they make me feel like leaving the house for good and never come back they way they treat me, we are always arguing and always fighting i cant take it no more i really cant stand my own family, iwant out of this life, i want to leave and never come back i have no idea what to do (and no im not thinking of suicide), what do i do??
2006-06-10 09:46:13 · 11 answers · asked by LoRd HuS 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just for the record im 19
2006-06-10 10:14:16 · update #1
and my bro is older than me by 6 yrs
2006-06-10 10:15:05 · update #2
You are battling the demons from within! I am guessing you are somewhere between 13 thru 17. You are experiencing a process that is instilled in you. Its called "breaking away". Kids have to fight for their independence to a certain degree. In your case, it sounds like a full blown out tug-of-war going on in your family. First off, is your brother older than you? If he is older than you, I would think he would understand these growing pains and be more understanding. So, possibly he is younger? And if that is the case he doesn't understand, and you are changing daily and probably scaring him. You fighting to be your own person. Your Mother and Father are fighting to keep their child in tact. Some parents, never allow their children the freedom to fly. Sadly, this is what causes teens to run away from home or once they leave home, not to have anything to do with their parents for a long time, or even forever. Go to a book store. I know there has to be a book on the "Breaking Away" process. Buy this book, read this book, then turn this book over to your parents. Maybe this can help you find some common ground to work out this on going battle, that no one is going to win, victoriously. The more you understand about yourself, the better you will be able to deal with the rage you feel. Plus you will not feel so abdonded. You are soooo not alone in this area. Kids thru out the world are battling this same problem. If your not already doing so, pray to God,and request his help threw this difficult time. Having sometone like God on your side is always to your advantage. Hang in there, its going to be alright.
2006-06-10 10:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have taken the first step by realizing that you don't like the negative behavior that you are displaying.
Do you go to school? Because if you do go to the guidance office and ask to speak with a cousellor. You could also ask your parents if they would take you to therapy. Leaving the house is an option but only if you can affird to support yourself and it won't fix the problems that you are having with your family.
By spoiling you and giving you everything you want depsite your abusive behavior your parents are enabling you. It might also be a good idea to have some family sessions to get to the root of whats causing your instense anger.
It could be that you are depressed or have a chemical imbalance. But it dosen't mean you are crazy. Your doctor would be the best person to talk to find out if that is the cause and he or she could reccommend a good therapist or psychologist.
Whatever you do get some help soon. By the sounds of it you are sprialing out of control and need some sort of intervention and techniques to help you deal with your anger before you loose all control and do something you will regret.
First you have to find out what's causing it though. Did something traumatic happen to you? Did your intensee anger come on all of a sudden?Have you suffered a loss recently or had a dramtic change in your routine? These are questions that could unlock the reason for your extreme anger. A counselor or psychologist will be able to guide you through this process best.
Sitting down and talking to your parents is the first step. Tell them that you feel angry all the time and don't know how to stop it and want help. You showed that you want help by posting your question here.
Releasing some of your feeling in a safe enviroment will help you control them outside of therapy. You said that your parents would do anything for you so if that's the case they should be more than willing to get you the help you need so very desperatly.
Until then take a deep breath count to ten and/or walk away when you feel an anger ouburst coming on. Then go and write in a journal on on your blog, if you have one. If you write about what you are feeling when you are angry it might help you unock the reason or reasons why you are prone to such violent attacks of anger.
2006-06-10 10:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HUS--listen in dude--I can't solve all your problems but I can give you something here that will help if you let it...You have more options than you realize right now--and the reason you can't see them is because you're in the middle of a war zone--no one can think clearly in a war zone--but there is a way to do it--believe me--I know--First thing--you got to give yourself credit for deserving better and you have to realize that YOU have the power to get through anything---anything---You are better than all this and this is not the total of your life--more is on its way--it can be good or more of the same--and its YOUR choice what that will be----Next--you have to find this place within that you can pull away to when you are confronted with impossible choices especially the ones that have you in fights with your family--it is much better to pull away than to engage in such stuff because no good can come of it and it only compounds your problems----The next and most important part here dude---and this is a must---find a buddy--and I'm not talking some dude your own age that you can ***** to---I'm talking someone like a favorite teacher or someone like that that you can go to and tell them stuff and know they will listen and not be judging out on you---go to that person and tell them that you need someone to listen--and then pour it on them--you'll be surprised at how much better you'll feel and how much easier it all will be when you have that one someone listening and helping you see things from a little different place----do these things for yourself---I'll be thinking good things for you dude and once again--it is going to be better starting right now if you'll just let it............Peace to you Huss-------your pal-------LarryJ7
2006-06-10 10:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hmmm lets think about that..... maybe u could go to family counseling or jsut try to talk to ur parent without getting mad. or!! u and ur family can take a vacation away from the house somewhere relaxing and spend sometime together or something like that, and its not ur fault that u and ur bro fights its commom between siblings to fight. but if nothing helps then u might need anger management if things get anyworse. but its best to try to stay calm when u get mad so nothing happens that u will regret in the long run. plus i think that they only treat u that way b/c thats the way they think they have to treat u that way b/c maybe thats the way u treat them idk lol im only on this b/c work is sooooo boring but anyways!! i bet ur parents really love u and care about u. plus if they wanted u out of the house they would of kicked u out a long time ago.
2006-06-14 19:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by candie21_js 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey im srry to hear bout all that. im in the same situation though. cant stand your family, hate your town and the people in it, and want sumthin new. been there. what i do is just get out of the house as much as possible but at the same time you cant run from your fears. maybe you should confront your parents, or maybe i should just take my own advice. maybe you should talk to your brother and explain to him how you feel, and most importantly, dont believe what your bro says b/c then it'll become true. hope i helped in neway.
2006-06-10 16:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by razorbladekisses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, buddy. Stick it out. I did that. I left. And guess what. They left me. I havent talked to my family in nine years, and I think about them damn near daily. You got Problems? Focus on being the person you want to be. I could tell you that we all gotta plan, and a destiny, but until you see it for yourself, you wont believe it.
How old are you...15-17? I pushed buttons til they pushed me away, then I left. Grow up. Family is not all bad. Dont realize it too late like me.
2006-06-10 09:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by Richard B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i left...and now im 19 wit a baby living by myself struggling to pay bills. appreciate what u do have as hard as it may seem. these times will pass.
2006-06-10 10:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy could help you figure out why you do this and how you could change. Family therapy could help your parents to stop enabling you.
2006-06-10 09:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got lost in the second line,sorry
2006-06-13 07:22:29 · answer #9 · answered by BLACK_KILLZ_she is terror 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray,read the Bible,go to church.
2006-06-10 09:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by broadwayluver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋