a close friend of ours is depressed! she has told my best mate that shes tried 2 kill herself before!! nd only once!!
she said shes gonna try it again after she gets her exam results! she told my best mate 2 keep it a secret bt she had 2 tell some one becoz she feels if she dies that it will be her fault for not telling anyone!!
our close mate is addicted 2 medication and she loves to cut herself!! becoz she says it talks away the pain!! we hav asked her does she get help and she does bt they dont seem 2 work becoz she thinks that her shrink and doctor r perverts!!
wat shud we do!
we nee help bt cant tell anyone else becoz she'll find out and who knows wat she will do!!!!!
2006-06-10 09:31:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You need to tell someone! So what if she finds out?! She may not be able to ask for help directly, so she's begging you and your mate to do it for her. She may not say so in so many words, but she's crying out for help. It's possible that the doctor she sees isn't the right one for her. And it's also possible that she needs to be hospitalized for a while. Don't delay! Don't wait for those exam results! Tell someone now! Get her the help she needs! Tell her parents, school counselor, someone! Think how you will feel if you don't tell and she succeeds the next time. I pray that you'll find someone to tell and your friend gets the help she needs. She's blessed to have such good friends who care so much!
2006-06-10 09:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to tell someone NOW because by the sounds of what you have describe she is already doing things to hurt herself and it will only get worse without help.
She needs to get to a doctor or a hospital ASAP!! Cutting and suicide attempts should not be taken lightly and she needs intervention now. If you get her help now you will be preventing her from doing anymore harm.
I am assuming that you live in the UK and I don't know what you laws are there but in North America if you call an ambulance and the patient is a threat to themselves or others the police will forcibly take them to the hospital, usually in an ambulance. They will be held in the psychiatric area of the hospital until a psychiatrist can evaluate them. You can call a suicide hot line in your area to find out the best way to get you friend the help she needs.
It's obvious that you are great friends as you have been there for her and are very concerned for her. Regardless of what you may think a good friend would also get her help. She will probably be angry with you initially, but once she has completed part of the healing process that she so desperately needs to, she will see that she had two amazing friends that cared enough to save her life.
2006-06-10 17:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is serious stuff, you are talking about life and death!!
If she is really your friend you need to contact one of her family members that can understad and help her. She probably needs to go to an inpatient treatment center or mental hospital so they can help her. It doesnt matter if she doesnt like doctors, you guys have to do something. In these hospitals they can really help, they are not for crazy people..so dont think it is wrong to make her go to one. In a hospital she will feel safe and doctors there will help her understand her depression and problems. Please do something! Talk to her mom or dad, or contact a psychiatrist, therapist or psychologist that can counsel you guys. Hurry, its a friend you all will loose and if she dies and you all didnt do anything to prevent her, think how ill you al feel....like killers
2006-06-10 16:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by Posh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get with her family fast and have an intervention, she needs to be in a place where she can be watched and counciled. you need to tell her parents what shes said so they know. who cares if she finds out if it saves her life she be thankful for it one day when shes in her right mind, ive been there as the depressed, suicidal cutter and i ate 5 full bottles og pills and died and i came back with a doctor punching me in the chest. i was in a drug induced coma for two days and i woke up in a hospital, but i grew up and realized i cant be so selfish, that i would hurt alot of people and ive got to get over myself and realize that my problems arent anywhere near as bad as others. suicide is not an option and ther are so many other options out there and she needs to know that.
2006-06-10 17:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by carlas420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot keep it a secret. She needs immediate medical assistance. She needs to see a Dr. who can help her. If she doesn't like the Dr. who's treating her now, she needs to see someone else. If she refuses to get help, call emergency.
2006-06-10 16:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell someone. Yeah, she'll probably get mad about it, but so what?? If it were my friend, I'd rather have them mad at me and still alive than not mad and dead. She obviously needs help. It's your duty as her friends to do what you can to see that she gets it. Good luck.
2006-06-10 16:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you and your friend need to visit a doctor and explain to him the situation i think your friend needs psychiatric help -- maybe the doctor will be willing to somehow meet her and you could present him as afriend and slowly he can get closer to her and help her with her problem -- Could the root of the problem start with her family? if not maybe you and your friend need to talk to them too? -- One thing tho with all her problems she has two great supportive friends
2006-06-10 16:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by helmats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to get her help and she is successful in her attempts anyway. Maybe there was no other choice.
2006-06-10 17:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get this peerson help i speak from experience if they try once they will eveually secceed
2006-06-10 16:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by Maria R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋