Any girl that I am not attracted to I can talk to just fine, then when I get to a girl who I am going out with or who I know likes me, I cant say anything, I choke. i REALLY need help
2006-06-10 09:20:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is kind of like public speaking - most people get nervous when they have something have something new to prove. When you are attracted to someone you are trying really hard not to make a fool of yourself because you feel like you can lose the moment or chance with them, right? And when you aren't attracted to a person you feel like you have nothing to lose with them.
My advice (which I know is easier said than done, but try anyway) stop worrying about whether or not you make a good impression and just take the road that is labeled "if she likes me cool, if not oh well." It will take a TON of practice, but once you do it, things will be easier.
Good luck!
2006-06-10 09:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Just me.... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean pal, wouldn't it be cool if you could have the most attractive girl you know and have her as your very best friend.... ah paradise. But to answer your question I would have to say you are putting to much pressure on yourself, in dating terms this is called the fear of rejection. So try not to expect anything out of these types of encounters. Try to be yourself and if they don't accept you the way you are,,,to bad. Well maybe you might have to make a few minor change for yourself..Keep on trying pal........................
2006-06-10 16:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Catt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl is alone...or relatively alone let her know that she makes you a little nervous and if she is nice she will be flattered. If she laughs in a mean way then she is a ***** and not worth likeing. But the basic way to improve it, is get out there, talk and eventually you will get over it.
2006-06-10 16:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by mandolinatou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you so worried about impressing a girl who you already know likes you? i don't get it. just be yourself dude. maybe you have some self esteem issues. love yourself first and the rest will come more easily. don't put the girl up on a pedestal either. remember that they are human just like you or that girl you can talk to easily. sometimes with new people it's harder to get to know them and find things to talk about so just ask lots of questions like about her family or where they grew up or what their last date/relationship was like...generic stuff. YOU CAN DO ITTTT!!!
2006-06-10 16:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by musikalgrl20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? The reason Im asking is this gets better whenu get older. Just think that she likes you too and is nervous as well and to make a good impression.
2006-06-10 16:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by ♪♫jessy♫♪ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to them. They don't bite. so don't worry about what they think. just say something like hey my name is joe and I think your attractive and ask them some question. Just start a conversation and before you know it your talking to a attractive girl.
2006-06-10 16:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick your balls up off the floor and go for it. rejection sucks but its bound to happen sooner or later. i used to be that way too, now I am just blunt and to the point, cant you tell :)
2006-06-10 16:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by kizdrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start drinking. You'll get the confidence you need that way.
2006-06-10 16:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by tobcol 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not weird because everyone feels the same way too....but you will gather the courage soon...especially if you like her so much
2006-06-10 16:25:02 · answer #9 · answered by mistyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's normal. Try to relax more when you like a like.
2006-06-10 16:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋