He moved out recently because of friction between him and my mom. They aren't getting a divorce, he's just living apart from the rest of the family. In my opinion, this gesture signifies that he does not want to be part of the family any longer. So then why does he always want to spend time with me? I don't have time for this...I want to be a normal teenager and hang out with my friends. Dads should be there to hang out with at home...shouldn't they? How can I enjoy visiting my dad more?
2006-06-10 08:56:16 · 8 answers · asked by Susie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your father moving out doesn't mean that he doesn't want to be part of the family any more. He's probably trying to do what is best for everyone, if he and your mother don't get along all of the time.
Just because he's not living at home doesn't mean he doesn't want to spend time with you though, or that he doesn't love you any more.
My parents got divorced last summer, and I live with my mother, but I do go to my father's occassionally to spend time with him, or I talk to him on the phone when I'm away at school.
I suggest you talk to your father about how you feel about the entire situation, and maybe you can arrange a certain time where you and he can spend time together, or an activity you can do together so that he still gets to see you and you don't feel as if it's wasting your time.
You can still be a "normal teenager", even if your parents aren't living together. There's a lot of people these days who are in a similar situation.
Seriously though, talk to your father. I'm sure he misses you (why else would he want to spend time with you?), and I'm sure he's feeling left out from the family, even if it's for the best that he isn't living at home any more.
2006-06-10 09:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sol 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
don't blame your dad solely -- on why they separated. my parents are separated too but i don't blame any of them, and clearly they have told me that i have nothing to do with the separation and their love for me and my sister hasn't changed at all. this is a marital problem, not just family problem. the children have nothing to do with this and i think you should leave it as it is. their separation is obviously a mutual decision. just because your dad moved out, it doesn't mean that he does not want to be part of the family anymore or that he doesn't want to be your dad anymore... otherwise, why would he be so eager to spend time with you? it's because he loves you. and since he moved out, he has seen you less and less and he realizes how much he misses his children and that's why he wants to spend so much time with you...
i think you should give your dad a break. you are lucky to still have your father. think of the children who have lost their fathers... i haven't seen my father in 5 years already (he's back home in the country) do you know what it's like for a father to not see his daughter that long? it's sad. whenever i call him, he cannot help but cry. and mind you, he's a very tough guy. spend more time with your father, express to him that you love him. we are not here in this world for long... there will come a time when you will say good bye to your father. and you will regret not spending enough time with him.
2006-06-10 16:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by PC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your pain. Why don't you try watching movies. That will keep him from talking to much. I remember when i lived at home it was hard to small talk with my dad. I didn't want him to know somethings about me. I liked having my own space. I think he's just trying to make up for him not being home so try to be patient and understanding.
2006-06-10 16:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by merivel7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur his only comfort he can find. You can enjoy visitinig your dad more by always remembering that you're his world and that to him your're not just an average teen, you're his treasured daughter. Just keep in mind that he loves you and just wants you to be happy.
2006-06-10 16:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by wasabi_milkshake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that you're having difficulties fitting him into your life. You're his daughter NOT just some random friend who wants to "hang out".
2006-06-10 16:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by beauvoir_babe1865 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause he's your Dad and he loves you and doesn't want to lose you! you should spend time with your Dad!
2006-06-10 16:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be responsible for their difficulties.
tell him you want to have a normal life not make special arrangements
2006-06-10 18:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY?
2006-06-10 15:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by seeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋