I have a 2 1/2 year old son and a 8 week old son, my husband left me when I was 9 months pregnant...I don't have a lot of friends or family around where I live so I'm kinda doing all this on my own. Was just wondering what other moms thought was tha hardest part of being a single mom and how they cope with it and deal with the day to day challenges of being a single mom.
2006-06-10 08:47:20 · 10 answers · asked by myhopelesslyshatteredheart 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am a single mom with two children as well. I recently went back to college and I am a full-time student. I did this for my children, not myself because my heart gets broken every time I need to provide for them. Being poor is not bad, but all children deserve the same opportunities and that is really hard to accept when you can't provide for them. Get prepared and make a better life for you and your children. You'll do great and you'll also feel better about yourself and your situation.
2006-06-10 08:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say definitely NOT the loneliness. Your children are the best company you can have. It was my son and I only for a long time (his father was an addict and then passed away, and it was my choice to be alone). The hardest part is finding the right person to watch your children and how to pay for it. Get in touch with the county and find out about subsidizing child care expenses. That will help a lot. And then find parents in town with children of the same age and swap sitting so that you can get out once in a while. That's what my best friend and I do. Having your children meant you made a decision. Granted, you didn't expect your husband to leave during the pregnancy of your second child, and why isn't he helping? That seems to be the question. What is wrong with these fathers (and sometimes mothers) who just don't feel the responsibility for the life that they helped create!!!!!
2006-06-10 19:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 11 year old son and a 5 year old daughter and the worst part about it is the other people. When they find out you are not married they say "oh i'm so sorry" or something like that. Like its a curse to have kids and no husband. I am divorced so its not like i had my children out of wedlock. If you need support there are a lot of programs for single parents out there. You just have to find one that fits you. One such program worked wonders for me and I found so many new friends that I actually had to stop giving my phone number out. Good Luck and I hope you take my advice.
2006-06-10 18:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by scornedgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully life will get better for you. For now enjoy the time you have with your kids where you can be the giver and reciever of all their love. This will be so rewarding for you in the rough and tough times. If you can get involved in a playgroup/daycare so that you can make friends with other Moms and maybe share some babysitting time when you can get the groceries done or housework etc etc.Time for yourself? Don't think that's going to happen much so I would have to say that might be the toughest challenge for you. Hope $$$, living accomodation ,car and other daily necessities are not a problem. MAKE HIM PAY!!! Bastard!!
2006-06-10 16:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by sinned 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest part for me was child care. Having a job that pays enough to afford a desent babysitter and then being able to depend on that sitter so I could keep the job. I got required to work Christmas day once at a factory job. I asked the plant manager how he expected me to find a sitter for Christmas Day. His response.......That your problem not mine, you should have thought about taht before you became a single mom. Thanks %$# hole. Anyways, that always seem to be my biggest issue. Good luck, its a hard life but the children make it worth it in the end.
2006-06-10 17:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by abearsfan77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess the hardest part is when you make sure the kids grow up right what i mean is make sure you teaching him the right stuff like dont do drugs and make sure there healthy and stuff like i dont get how oter parents can make there kids perfect like i have a freind have 2 perfect kids they dont do drugs and all that
2006-06-12 19:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by hockey pro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the hardest part for me was lonliness. and poor self estee feeling like no one would ever want me because of the kids and the shitty way i look.
2006-06-10 15:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by geet840 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feelling your life is over and u have to do everything yourself. the stress of sibling rivary and trying to work non stop doing kid stuff. Being broke all the time etc...
2006-06-10 15:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not having a lot of time to spend with ur kids and finances
2006-06-10 15:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by Big T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lonliness and poverty
2006-06-10 15:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋