I don't want another abortion, but I don't want to loose him.
2006-06-10 07:33:18 · 17 answers · asked by bebeckles9 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I have a 3 year old now, and want more children, but he accepts my son as his own, and I want to make the relationship work.
2006-06-10 07:56:43 · update #1
If you dont want the abortion, you dont get the abortion. He's not worth keeping if he's trying to pressure you into it. He has no idea what it is like to have a child inside you, and he has no idea what it is like for that child to be killed.
I think he should take some responsibility for his actions, as it sounds like you do, and accept what has happened.
I know the idea of losing him can be hard but if you want this baby you have to accept it could happen. And try to evaluate how your relationship is in other areas. Does he treat you well, really? Respect you? Does he abuse you in anyway, make you fee little?
This could be a change for the better. Could make him realize a lot, or could make you realize a lot. Hopefully both. But think about the little person that's growing inside you right now, and the future they could have in front of them. Good luck in your decision.
2006-06-10 07:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa N 4 · 15⤊ 5⤋
The choice of what you do with your body is yours, and no one else's, whether you choose to abort or have the baby. It's all up to you. Don't let him bully you into anything you don't want to do, and don't let anyone else do so either. Think long and hard about if you're ready for a child and all of the responsibility that comes with it, and if you can raise him or her on your own (because you might lose your boyfriend if you have the kid- remember, just as much as it's your right to have a child, it's his right not to have one).
Make the decision for you, and not for anyone else.
2006-06-10 14:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend cannot force you to have an abortion. In addition, if he leaves you, he is still responsible for child support...
Talk to an adult who you trust about your situation and see what advice they can give you. It is important not to make quick decisions at a time like this without help from an outsider. Whatever you decide now will stay with you for the rest of your life.
2006-06-10 14:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by IVF Expert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should had prevented getting pregnant without discussing a possible second child? But I guess it is too late now, as you are pregnant already. If you are able to support this child on your own, without counting on him, because maybe he does not work or whatever, because you can take him to child support afterwards... And you are leaving on your own with your three year old and are able to basically provide for this child and not have to count on anybody else, than screw him... that is part of you, that is your baby and your child... Why kill your baby for a man... Be a MOTHER first and then a WOMAN....
2006-06-10 16:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have control over your own body and what you do with it. Personally I don't believe in abortions. Have you considered putting the baby up for adoption?? There are SO MANY couples out there who CAN'T have kids and would LOVE them. If you don't want kids you REALLY should have used PROTECTION...there are a lot of clinics out there that give FREE or low cost BIRTH CONTROL!!! If your boyfriend REALLY loved you then he wouldn't ask you to murder both of you guy's own baby!
2006-06-10 14:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by myhopelesslyshatteredheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg dont get an abortion...i mean ur boyfriend sounds like a loser no offense but realy he should care about your feelings and what u want to do and i think its awful to end an innocent life that never even started...and when u say "another" u mean this is the second time u've accidentally gotten pregnant? maybe u should be more careful
2006-06-10 14:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want get in abortion go ahead if you dont want dont do it its your body you baby if he is meen about it leave him there are places pregnant women can stay that have no where else to go whats more imported to you a babys life that will grow to love you or a man who might cheat on you or leave you
2006-06-10 14:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by araya11saphire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all your choice dear. As bad as it sounds he has no say in it. Abortions are hard to deal with emotionally and if you have already had one you are probably haunted by the one enough. Have your baby and if he walks he walks. That child is way more important than he is.
BTW I have reported babyshadow85...... Isn't it funny how people who believe in God so much have no room for forgiveness?
Hyprocrite.
2006-06-10 16:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to re-evaluate your life and situation. Do what is best for you! PRO-CHOICE!!!!!!!! It is your body, afterall........But Do not kill a life just for a man!! That is sooo wrong for soo many reasons. Please use wise judgement+speak with a councelor for help on making an informed wise decision. and in the future if you do not want a baby at the time..use some protection. Not trying to be harsh, just real....take care+good luck!
2006-06-10 14:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by mom2AK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what he wants u should not kill a baby. u will go to hell for killing a baby. it even says it in the bible
if u have had an abortioin befor i know the answer to ur problem QUITE SPREADING UR DAMN LEGS. ppl like u need to be killed just like the innocent baby u killed
2006-06-10 14:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋