2006-06-10 07:30:54 · 15 answers · asked by Mom of 7 gramma of 3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't get involved. It will only make a bad situation worse. It's between the 2 of them. You could make it very weird for everybody. And for Pete's sake don't go out with him yourself (I've seen stranger things happen).
2006-06-10 07:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ironic that i am answering your question...because this is the same situation I find myself in...except I am that bf. I don't think that pushing her one way or other will help...let life decide. Her bf loved her for who she is (as do you) and sometimes that means accepting the choices that they make. Who knows...maybe when all the ashes have come to rest it really was for the better. However, keep an open home for the ex...and at least try to convince the two of them to be mature enough to remain friends. Love never forgets pain nor does it forget times past...but sometimes it will grow stronger with a little seperation and the occassional phone conversation coupled with a coffee at starbucks. This does not of course mean it will lead to anything...but this is the way it went down with me...and after awhile it seems to comforting in some sense. It allowed me to realize that I really do like to see her happy...in whatever path she is walking.
2006-06-10 14:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is her choice, but she obviously (from what it seems in your post) that she handled it wrong?
Sit down with her and ask 'why' if you don't already know. Depending on her age, this could also be a good time to teach 'gentleness' when wanting/needing to break up with someone. "You may not feel the same anymore, but that is no reason to be cruel. One day, someone will do the same to you, and you'll know how it feels..and it's not good."
You could call him, and say that you are sorry things ended the way it did with your daughter, but you do care for him as your son, and will always be there as a friend, mentor.
Best of luck.
2006-06-10 14:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you cope? You stay out of it! It's between her and him. If you love him like a son, then treat him as such. If you want him around,, have him around..because THAT is between you and him, and none of HER business. No one has the right to tell someone else who to be with. The boy (or man) that she left WILL get over it eventually. Life Does go on after breakups.
2006-06-10 14:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by codiane99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't give any details about the break up, maybe she has some good reasons she is not telling you about. Mind your own business and don't take his side, he could be just getting into your good graces. Wise up mom, many guys will get in good with the mother to make it with the daughter.
2006-06-10 14:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, mind your own business. it might hurt you to see that this boy is sad but if your daughter doesnt like him anymore you cant force her to take him back. how do you cope? hmm go to the kitchen and get ice cream and sit down and watch a good movie :)
2006-06-10 15:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not her fault she found somebody else i guess her relationship must not have worked out. as for u: u dont have to take sides or anything u culd always continue to love him like a son but if ur gonna ask about him dont ask ur daughter cuz shes gonna get annoyed if u do that. and him: well i can understand that hes hurt right now after wat ur daughter did. he culd either deal with it and keep sulking bout it. he has to move on tho is wat im tryna say. if life u get into relationships and then those relationships fail but u still gotta deal with and move on. its not gonna be easy for him but the most he culd do is try.
good luck to him and u
2006-06-10 14:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really sad, and im sorry for you. But you need to let her make her own choices, if she feels hes not the one she wants to be with for the rest of her life, then shes wasting her time...
2006-06-10 14:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by girly7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is her choice and her life . Did your mother choose your husband for you? You have the right to like him love him whatever and speak to him But don't try to force her to be with someone she feels is not right for her unless you want to loose her forever.
2006-06-10 15:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not live your life through children, you need to let them make thier own choices, if you try to push them in a direction they don't want to go in they will do what they want and make sure it's opposite of what you want. You will only make it worse.
2006-06-10 14:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by kcracer1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋