my 2 1/2 year old son is driving me crazy I have tried time out and sending him to his room I have done every thing. And now that i have another one that is 8 weeks old he is worse then ever>
2006-06-10 06:56:24 · 13 answers · asked by mary anna 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Both of you could try and learn to spell, for a start.
2006-06-10 07:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Tac_aipes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the thing is when getting frustrated and angry and punishing doesn't work you have to do the opposite.
Ignore or put as little emphasis on the bad as possible. Over exaggerate the good. Yell and scream and cheer and clap and hop and dance when he is doing something good. Like he put his truck away is the greatest thing in the world. When he does something bad talk to him tell him you are disappointed he threw that toy across the room it makes you sad and someone that you love could get hurt. Do not yell do not freak out do not even punish unless it is excessive. Just tell him how it makes you feel. If he is talking well even ask him how he is feeling. You would be surprised at how much children this age really do understand and can express their feelings when only asked.
Be consistent.
2006-06-10 14:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by foolnomore2games 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two and a half you son may not be lissoning because children normaly go through a fase i have a cousin whos 2 and a half and hes not that bad its because my uncle can control him you've got to let him no that he has to lisson to you other wise it will get really out of controll like my brother in 13 im letting you know because you might not want to listen to my advise as much as some one elses because im yound but im nearer to the age and know what its like. your son may feel that your only there to be mean to him you got one who 8 weeks and your son maybe jealous of him make sure you spend enough time with him and dont always tell him off because he may feel your faveritising the 8 week one. i hope he calms down
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2006-06-10 14:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by precious as jwls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, mary anna, let's think about this.
The kids sense that you and your (soon-to-be?) ex old man are not getting along. The new man in your life changes how you interact with the man that lives in your house. These things can make small children very upset and anxious. Maybe this is part of the current problem.
In any case, small children learn how to manipulate and control those adults in their little world. You have been reacting to your 2 year old in ways that he believes he can effect. And it seems he is. You must become calm and "unreadable" to him. No reaction in the face of his antics will confuse and confound him. When he sees that he doesn't get the reaction he expected, he will stop the behavior.
It may take a couple weeks because you have "trained" him to expect those reactions.
Good luck... I guess things are pretty tough for you right now. email me if you wanna chat.
(edit: just read "foolnomore"'s answer.... it seems like excellent advice.)
2006-06-10 14:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by bogart_that 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-10 14:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by jamesjcraven9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start spanking. Nip this problem in the bud now. Better to change his attitude now than to have him act like most of the brats in junior high and high school now. Spare the rod spoil the child. Let him know that you still love him and care about him, but he has to show obedience and respect to you as his parent. Read James Dobson, The Strong Willed Child and Bringing up Boys.Do not allow this behavior to continue
2006-06-10 14:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by RICHIES...STUFF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes two years old, most two year olds dont have the capacity at that age to remember everything you tell him not to do, my advice would be to focus on one thing he does wrong at a time... when you see him doing this to make sure he is paying attention get down and look directly into his eyes and tell him no... and not to do it... and tell him if he does he will have to go to his room... you have to work on one thing at a time as children at the age of two cant remember everything you tell them to do and not to do... and always follow through with the punishment,,, if you tell him you are going to and you dont then he doesnt take you seriously he knows that he can get away with it sometimes so he will test you. Children also at that age test you in every way as they are exploring their world and noticing things that they hadnt noticed before they dont like to be limited... but its good that you are setting up boundaries at an early age. My advice is pick your battles and focus on one thing at a time... he may also have some jealousy towards the other baby and children have a tendency to act out if they feel they are being ignored... Be sure to take the time to spend with your son as you do with your baby...Pick an activity that he likes to do and do it with him.. Also when he starts to grab something you dont want him to offer him something else, this will distract his attention to the other object... Try to distract him with something else and he will most likely forget about the other that you didnt want him to have... or distract him with an activity or food... let him know that he cant have what he wanted but he does have other choices... sometimes they still dont know what no means but by offering him something else your allowing him another alternative instead of saying no you cant have this... children at this age are exploring their independence and by doing this your telling him that he has another choice... which is encouraging as well as helping him to know that he has options and that you arent just being mean...
goodluck, I hope everything works out, he will most likely get better but it takes time and working with the child...
2006-06-10 14:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by hearts_bleed_dark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im old enough to remember being spanked for punishment, and i still believe that a slap will get the little animals attention, at that age you gotta train them like a dog, rewards and punishment and realize that they are about as smart as a dog and cant really think things thru.
2006-06-10 14:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by thale138 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Books
Don't know if you have time but read them they will tell you the best thing to do
AND
Try Reverse Sychology that usually works
2006-06-10 14:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by Skylar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe switch gears. Forget about him having to listen and give him more love, now more than ever since he probably feels he has competition.
2006-06-10 14:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by shrink_u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋