I'm 16 and I've liked this guy in my school for over a year now. We chat occasionally but I have no idea if he likes me back. He used to tease me playfully sometimes but doesn't much anymore - he admires me because I work hard but I don't know if he likes me in that way. In about a week we'll both be leaving our school and I'll never see him again after our prom night a few weeks later. I don't know whether to tell him, and if I decided to I wouldn't have a clue how to tell him. I've never asked anyone out before.
Please give advice.
2006-06-10 06:43:55 · 25 answers · asked by zoe_zodwee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow that's a rather definate yes all round..............................now i've actually gotta work out how to say it...........crap!
2006-06-10 07:36:42 · update #1
!~ Just tell him how you feel, he may reject you or he may give it some thought but its better than waiting around for him to get with someone else and having to deal with the pain of watching him be with someone else. if you dont do it your going to spend the rest of your life wondering "what if" ~! you g0 gurl !! (^_^)
2006-06-10 06:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by yay4avi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Don't wait a single second because life is so precious and we have no time to waste. If your feelings for him are enormously strong...if there's a certain song that you listen to that reminds u of him and/or gives u goosebumps, u better ask this guy out before u spend ur whole life crying at the "what if" scenario. Trust me, even getting rejected is 10000 times sweeter than not knowing what if. Rejection is normal and if he rejects u, then it was never meant to be. Just know u did ur part and personally I would award u with a medal for courage. U would be the better person for going with ur heart's desires and reaching out to be happy. Just think if he says yes, how happy u two will be. Maybe he is your soul mate. Give it a shot. I gaurantee u u wont regret it even if he says no. Trust me, I have been there. I don't want u to suffer, please make it easier on urself. Liberate your soul and spirit and just go for it. If you believe in g-d and fate, only good will come of this. Please do it for urself and the good of mankind. You don't have to follow society's set rules that say a guy is supposed to ask a girl out. If u feel like u need him to hug u, hold u, and cuddle with u, just go for it. Think of how happy u will be if it works out. Take the chance and I gaurantee u will respect urself more. And let me know how it goes. Email me at grtone09@yahoo.com
2006-06-10 14:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask him out, especially if you both are going to be leaving school soon. If anything just tell him before schools out for good, that you've liked him for a while, and that you wish you had told him sooner because you might have had a chance with him. Who knows maybe when you two are in college or whatever you can keep in touch, and if you're meant to be together, fate will make it so. Until then, don't live with any regrets, they all help you grow to make you a better you. GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-10 13:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINATELY! Girl, you never know what you're missing out on until you ask. And remember this in life: If you never ask...the only guarantee you have is that the answer is no.
In other words, if you never ask, you're never going to get what you want. YOu have to go out and grab life by the horns, take charge in your life. Don't just let life happen to you, try to control it as much as you can. Want someone to date you? ASk them.Want to see the world? Then start making pllans on how to make it happen.
And another thing I've learned....75% of your male friends are your friends because they're interested in you. I don't know how many really good guys I've passed on because I thought they were just really good buddies. ONly to find out later that they had a crush on me and I had one on them too.
Don't miss out on the good guys, darlin'. He's already your friend, so you know he's a good guy. He's interested in you on some level and you already know this.
So go for it.
And the best approach is the direct approach. I'd tell him sometime...."I've been thinking, we're really good friends, and I like you...a lot. And I was wondering if you've been having the same thoughts as I have. We make a pretty good team, would you like to take it another step further? We can go out on a few dates and see how it goes. If worse comes to worst, we can always step back and remain friends."
If you don't feel brave enough to tell him, then write it, works just as well.
2006-06-10 14:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by sexygirlseeksfun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really know exactly how you feel at this very moment. I am shy myself but I have come to a conclusion. If you think you may never see him again, tell him how you feel. It will make you feel better just to know, one way or the other how he feels. Otherwise, you will go through life wondering, what if? Don't miss your chance. If he says "no" well, then at least you know, and you can move on. And if he says "yes" then that would be great, and you would have never known that if you didn't talk to him GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-06-10 13:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose a memorable gift, not quite sure what and on the lead up to this tell him briefly but not in depth that you are coming out and giving a gift and name it to someone really special to you at this prom, then on the night tell him to meet you to back you up then as you walk over smile and tell him! he should find this warming. My boyfriend is on study leave and isnt coming back next year; his mum and stepdad are splitting up so he has to move away to derby! im getting to grips with loseing him in 3 weeks but for his birthday last week i got him a really expensive t-shirt that reminds him of me till he can next stop at my house! it should work if its meant to be! be careful though!
2006-06-10 13:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get his contact info, if you don't have. Tell him to keep contact with you. Call him once in a while to see whether he wants to continue the friendship.
If he is a guy that likes to make the first move, you should wait and just keep the friendship.
If he is a guy waiting for luck, then you may need to make the first move.
2006-06-10 13:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by A. Francis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me....the best thing you should do is not say anything. If by this time he has not done anything to get to know you better, then obviously he won't do it any time soon. Some guys are just stupid, if they like you, they will do anything to let you know. I suggest you give him hints, but letting him know for sure for sure straight up, NOT A GOOD IDEA!!!
2006-06-10 13:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by Girlwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him you would never be suprised by what will happen......and if he doesn't feel the same way it may be hard for you to deal with that but you'll come to soon get over it but still showing some feelings for him......
2006-06-10 13:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell him... :-) Put a note in his locker or something that said: "I know we don't talk much. But since I'm not gonna be able to see you again, I thought you might wanna know how I feel about u..." and blah blah blah...
Good luck!
2006-06-10 13:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by Annie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋