I'm a Christian, but I don't like church, for the simple fact that people are hypocrites, or is it just me?

Question

No matter how many times i've gone to church, I still feel unwelcomed. Everyone always stays confined within their own friends, and look at new people as if they aren't good enough Christians. It upsets me. I try so hard to get to know these youth people, and all they do is push me away. I feel out of place, is this the example of a good Christian, is how they want new people to learn about God?

Answer 1

There are hypocrites in every church. Is the pastor or youth leader a true Christian?

Because of this feeling unfavored or because of the hypocrites, I fell away from church for 10 years. In the process, I forgot about God. After praying because I remembered God, because I did something stupid, I had to go through a spiritual, mental & physical breakdown lasting nearly a year. All my idols & wrong thinking got fried.

You need a church. Jesus is who you need most, but you need to walk in forgivness. Remember Jesus forgave & forgot your sins. In prayer, you'll receive direction on the church or youth group that is right for you. Remember, Jesus is what matters.

Answer 2

The truth is, we are all hypocrites and that's not unique in any church. Also, I've learned that just because someone is a Christian, that does not mean that you will be best friends--it just means that they are forgiven.

Ignore the fact that your church has hypocrites. You should still be able to find some Christian friends that you have common interests with. Hang around those people at your church or go to a new church if you can't find a group of friends there.

Those in your youth group that choose to push you away are not displaying what Christ would have them do. Truth is, they are probably immature and going to church just for social reasons. Church is more than meeting with other people, it is a way to worship God.

Ask God to show you some friends in that church. If you believe you need to go to another church, ask that God do the same for you there. God knows we need good friends and He will deliver them in His timing.

Answer 3

First, it is great that you are a Christian!
As to your problem, people are people, everywhere you go. Even some who call themselves Christians. I've know people from church who would act like they didn't see you in a grocery store, and go down a different aisle! :0) The church I attend now is small and very "hometown"! Everyone seems to get along really well and no one is made to feel "excluded". Perhaps you need to consider finding a different church to attend. I have known churches that were more interested in foreign missions than the families of their own neighborhood, and I have been in churches that seemed to care more for socializing and gossip, than the Lord's Word. I have also known churches that would go to extraordinary lengths to help someone in need. Not all churches are the same. Find one that YOU feel comfortable going to. Trust what your heart tells you and you can't go wrong.

Answer 4

That's a hard thing for many people of faith. If you still want to go to church, try a really large church. There seems to be less judgement and gossip at a large church. Also pick a non-denominational church, rather than a Presbyterian, Pentacostal, or other affiliated organization.

Always keep in mind, that your faith has nothing to do with going to church. That is strictly between you and God and even though church can provide some people with good fellowship, it certainly is not necessarily. Don't let other people tell you otherwise!

Answer 5

THANK YOU. Finally someone who shares the same feelings as I do on this matter.
I use to attend Church when I was younger & encountered the exact same problems as you've described.
I've yet to switch to a new Church but I agree with some of the answerers here that you should not let other people' undermine you for being "new."
If I were you, I'd just ignore them. After all the reason why we attend Church is to learn more about Our Lord & Saviour NOT to be judged by bigotted people.

Answer 6

You just need to find a church that's right for you. I go to a big church and the people aren't always very friendly to visitors. But I got involved in small groups and met tons of people. Or perhaps a small church would be friendly. God made church as a place of rejuvenation. It is an essential way to get close to God and have Christian fellowship.

Answer 7

When you go to Church that's ur time with the Lord no anyone else's . But when you are member of a church and u don't feel comfortable maybe its time for you to move to a different church. there is no rule in the Bible that says you have to stay at one church for ever. You have to find one that feeds you spiritually and one that feeds you emotionally. It is better if you have friends at church or apart of a youth group or something like that. If you cannot find at where you are,. then maybe you should try some new churches

Answer 8

I don't have an answer for you and I'm an atheist, so it doesn't affect me, one way or another. But, I was a practicing Christian for over thirty years and I can tell you that your experience is not new or uncommon.

Churches are primarily social clubs and people tend to either associate with their own little group, or run in and run out as soon as services are over.

Wouldn't it be nice if churches did away with the preaching and all the formalities so people could actually congregate?

Answer 9

I think that few or none are not hypocrites.
The bible talks about there being no need for a church, in one of the guidelines I actually agree with, but that your prayer and studies should be done in seclusion so as to prevent the attempts of others to insert associations in place of what the words actually mean. Church is a place for conformity, but some parts of the bible contradict the actions and teachings of the churches.

Answer 10

Well I'm a Christian. I gave my heart to Christ about two years back. My dad goes to a Pentecostal church but I hate it there. Yes, I agree many so called Christians are hypocrites. Believe me it's nearly a year since I went to church. It's the relationship - personal with Jesus that really matters when you are not in good company. You need not feel guity about it. God Bless You and me too!