Is it normal to want a spanking?

Answer 1

From your parent(s) for doing something wrong? or just something a little fiesty during private time with the beau? The second is fine ;-)

Answer 2

I don't know your age, so let me answer this on two levels. For the first answer, I'll address you as a child. For the second answer, I'll address you as a teen or adult. I'm sure you can decide which answer fits your psychology and your situation.

1) If you are a child and you have done something wrong, you may want a spanking from your parents or guardian as a way of making sure the boundaries are intact. There are other means of discipline other than spanking, but wanting one says to me that you need to be reassured that the rules are the rules, and that your parents/guardian care about your behavior, and are being firm, fair and consistent.

You may also want to be reassured that when you break the rules, that they care enough to rein you back in. Good, caring discipline is a vital form of love. Discipline that sets boundaries and rules is necessary for kids to understand how to live in society and around other people. And good punishments should be those that do not hurt too much physically or emotionally. They might sting the ego a little bit, but not enough to wound, just enough to make you stop doing what you should not do, and start doing what you know you should do.

2) Wanting a spanking as an adult is a whole different matter. This isn't about behavior modification; this is about sexuality, pleasure and power-exchange. (Stop reading here if you are a child. If you keep reading, you have been warned that this gets into adult sexuality. I won't be explicit, but I will explain what this means about your psyche.)

Power exchange occurs between consenting adults. It involves one person giving up power and another one taking on power. It often involves stories or role-playing. Some feminists have said that power exchange is degrading to women. Nonsense. It's play. After you're done playing, you go back to being your regular everyday selves.

Liking some pain during your sexual play is called masochism. Being the one who likes to *give* pain is called sadism. This is a darker part of human sexuality, sometimes called kink. It can be a healthy way to express your sexuality, but you need to own it, explore it consciously, ALWAYS be "safe, sane and consensual" with partners, always have a safe word. The safe word (not "no" but something like "red" or even "sunscreen" -- something unmistakeable that's not part of any scene ever) ensures that all play stops IMMEDIATELY if there is real pain or too much emotional intensity. NEVER EVER play with anyone who thinks that a safeword is not needed!

That said, S/M play can be a way to balance yourself. If you have to maintain a proper public face in your job, then you might want to play a role that has you acting out and being so bratty that you deserve a spanking. In that sense, asking for a spanking can be freeing because you are able to own that part of yourself that cannot, at your job, tell people to go stuff themselves or to shut up, or whatever you might really want to say! :)

Hope this helps. Cheers, K

Answer 3

Some women do enjoy this occasionally. I do but it is all in good fun for us. My hubby respects my limits and never goes too far.
I usually am in my naughty school girl outfit going to the principals office. I swear and have a great time. I also enjoy fighting him while he tries to put me over his knee. Once he has me though and I feel his strong hand on my a.. I love it!

Answer 4

normal, i'm not so sure about. i do know you arent alone though, i try to always be a naughty girl who needs a spanking :)

Answer 5

You must have had some abuse as a child.

Answer 6

Have you been bad? Call me!

Answer 7

yes lol

Answer 8

gurl are u trying to be kinky?

Answer 9

how old are you

Answer 10

depends on how kinky u r .