If you had to choose only one, would you marry a bad christian or a good atheist?

Question

Please dont say "neither one" Dont lie and say all real Christians are good because a belief is not an action and dont say atheists are not good because East Germany was mostly atheists before 1990 and they enjoyed a very low crime rate. Also dont say the Christian might become good and the atheist might become bad because that's wishful thinking and not factual. If you pick bad over good, that's proof why so many christians are corrupt

Answer 1

Good Atheist. Religion is vague. Being a genuine good person is for real.

Answer 2

This is from an online book called "gods debris", written by scott adams...it is free to download in pdf.
“Four billion people say they believe in God, but few
genuinely believe. If people believed in God, they would
live every minute of their lives in support of that belief. Rich
people would give their wealth to the needy. Everyone
would be frantic to determine which religion was the true
one. No one could be comfortable in the thought that they
might have picked the wrong religion and blundered into
eternal damnation, or bad reincarnation, or some other
unthinkable consequence. People would dedicate their lives
to converting others to their religions.
“A belief in God would demand one hundred percent
obsessive devotion, influencing every waking moment of
this brief life on earth. But your four billion so-called believers
do not live their lives in that fashion, except for a few.
The majority believe in the usefulness of their beliefs—an
earthly and practical utility—but they do not believe in the
underlying reality.”
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. “If you asked
them, they’d say they believe.”
“They say that they believe because pretending to
believe is necessary to get the benefits of religion. They tell
other people that they believe and they do believer-like
things, like praying and reading holy books. But they don’t
do the things that a true believer would do, the things a true
believer would have to do.
“If you believe a truck is coming toward you, you will
jump out of the way. That is belief in the reality of the truck.
If you tell people you fear the truck but do nothing to get
out of the way, that is not belief in the truck. Likewise, it is
not belief to say God exists and then continue sinning and
hoarding your wealth while innocent people die of starvation. When belief does not control your most important
decisions, it is not belief in the underlying reality, it is belief
in the usefulness of believing.”
“Are you saying God doesn’t exist?” I asked, trying to
get to the point.
“I’m saying that people claim to believe in God, but most
don’t literally believe. They only act as though they believe
because there are earthly benefits in doing so. They create a
delusion for themselves because it makes them happy.”
“So you think only the atheists believe their own
belief?” I asked.
“No. Atheists also prefer delusions,” he said.
“So according to you, no one believes anything that
they say they believe.”
“The best any human can do is to pick a delusion that
helps him get through the day. This is why people of different
religions can generally live in peace. At some level, we
all suspect that other people don’t believe their own religion
any more than we believe ours.”
I couldn’t accept that. “Maybe the reason we respect
other religions is that they all have a core set of beliefs in
common. They only differ in the details.”
“Jews and Muslims believe that Christ isn’t the Son of
God,” he countered. “If they are right, then Christians are
mistaken about the core of their religion. And if the Jews or
the Christians or the Muslims have the right religion, then
the Hindus and Buddhists who believe in reincarnation are
wrong. Would you call those details?”
“I guess not,” I confessed.
“At some level of consciousness, everyone knows that
the odds of picking the true religion—if such a thing
exists—are nil.”

Answer 3

The Bible says "for all have sinned and have fallen short of the Glory of God", that applies to the bad Christian and the good atheist as well.
Having said that I would settle for the bad Christian because she has the hope of becoming good, on the other hand the good atheist might go bad and that might well be the end of things for her.

Answer 4

A good Atheist.
The problem with organized religion is that it's all too often used as a crutch, an excuse to behave anyway you want without suffering the concequences of your actions.
But if a person rejects religion but lives as a decent human being, that's simply better for everyone.
It's what my mother used to call "living christian" purposefully using a lower case "c."

And don't let anyone fool you into believing this country was based in any religion at all. It simply wasn't. Our forefathers were Diests...not necessarily "Christian" per se.
Our nation was based on RELIGIOUS FREEDOM as well as freedom FROM religious abuse and persecutions. Meaning any, all and none were welcome.
Our nation was based in an ongoing experiment called DEMOCRACY. Not religion.

Answer 5

Thankfully we are not given such limited choices in life. Where choosing a bad Christian simply because they are Christian is a ridiculous choice, so then is choosing a good Atheist if this person's beliefs are so totally opposing to your own. The possibility of a good relationship when two people's most basic of beliefs are at such odds are very narrow.

Answer 6

This is a very good question. Although I rather pick the the good atheist because of moral good. If a bad christian knows he is doing bad that would mean he is morally bad. Which God Can forgive but in relations to picking one to marry. I would rather have a morally good person then having a hypocrite.

Answer 7

If the quantifications of "good" and "bad" are based on how the person in question feels about the Christian and Atheist, then they should definitely choose the good Atheist. Choosing someone you don't love for the sake of remaining "equally yoked" is a moral crime in itself, directed at oneself.

Answer 8

I would choose the good Atheist. I think if u really love someone It doesn't matter what religion they r or r not. The important thing is that that person is a good kind hearted person who will love and respect u what ever there religion or none religion. I'm an agnostic though.

Answer 9

I wouldn't choose someone based on their Religion. I wouldn't pick a Christian over anyone else, whether he was bad or good just because he's Christian. Nor would I pick someone who was an Athiest, just because he was an Athiest, good or bad.

In my personal opinion, I would choose the person who is good at heart, regardless of their Religion.

Religion means nothing to me.

Answer 10

Really good question!

If you are good christian, just pray for you for accepting the bad christian as Jesus accepted her and pray for her to be well taught by God.

Or, pray for the good atheist to be a good christian.

For a real Christian, she should be changed to better and better by Holy Spirit.

For an atheist, she will never think the same as you and you will be lonely in soul.

Last question, if there is no suitable one, why should you rush to choose only one?

Answer 11

It is written for Christians to not be unequally yoked with unbeievers. A Christian is one who believes in the biblical Jesus. What agreement is there between a Christian and an Anitchrist?

In marriage, it just has to be the right Christian man or woman for each other. That takes seeking God in it.