2006-06-10 05:24:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Actually any party, graduation,baby shower? I don't want to go, and I don't really have the money to buy gifts. Is it rude not to go and not to get a gift?
2006-06-10 05:33:40 · update #1
A polite note that says something along the lines of " I'm sorry, I will be unable to attend due to a prior commitment". This will help whoever is hosting the gathering to know how much food will be needed. I have always sent a gift, even if it was a gift certificate, unless it was someone that I barely knew and the invitation was sent only as a courtesy.
2006-06-10 07:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sharingan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, the person does not know you don't like her, or she wouldn't have invited you to the shower/birthday party/graduation. You must be giving her false messages of friendship in some way. RSVP your regrets, citing a previous engagement. Sending a gift is a very nice gesture. At the very least, send a card.
2006-06-14 21:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by cloudofchanel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. Have a more pressing "appointment" I made the mistake of going, just to be civil, because it was a coworker. I bought the best I could afford and wrapped it with little baby toys tied in the ribbon. Afterwards at work, I overheard her berating my gift, how silly and stupid it was. I realized I had to consider the source, but it still hurt. If I could have gotten out of it, I would have, but it was a peer pressure thing. And the boss was sponsoring it.
2006-06-10 05:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, if you don't want to go, politely decline the invitation, you can always say you have a pressing engagement to attend, but don't give any details in case you forget and trip yourself up later down the line. I would feel like a hypocrite being at an event to celebrate with someone I don't like.
2006-06-12 23:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely decline.
There is no need to buy a gift for someone if you are not attending the party.
2006-06-14 05:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Amy Swallows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were graciously invited so you have the right to graciously decline but do send a card & little gift acknowledging the invite. Its the courteous thing to do.
2006-06-16 17:01:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you have some other commitments. No need to give her a gift if you don't like her.
If you don't like her, do yourself a favor, don't go or you will regret it for the rest of your life.
2006-06-10 05:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go crazy on a gift but "regretfully" decline and get a small but unique gift.
2006-06-17 01:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by Dani Bo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't likeher and you never have to interact with her again, just say no, you've got other things to do. If you have to see her again sometime, then say no and send her a card.
2006-06-16 16:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by profghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm sorry, but i have to stay home and wax the cat."
2006-06-10 06:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by missinglincoln 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋