I want to be truthful to my parents.But i unable to do so.Even for small insignificant matters,i cover up the truth and lie to them.I love my parents so much.If they found out that i am a liar i hate to think what would happen.I dont have any qualities that they expect from me.Can i leave my home and go somewhere else?My age is 17.
What should i do?
2006-06-10 05:04:36 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you truly love your parents like you say you do, then you will set aside one day/night when all are free. Then when you have their attention, tell them everything that you have to tell them. They may be angry and/or hurt at first, but they are your parents and they love you. They will help you. Trust me, if you run from this problem, you will run from others until you realize that you are just spending your whole life running from yourself and your past.
2006-06-10 06:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, figure out what benifits your lying. What is your motivation? Ask for some counseling. Nip this in the bud or your life will be troubled.
I would recommend self talk. Every morning, every night before you go to sleep, and more if you remember it. Say to yourself
"I will no longer lie or manilupate the truth" I am an honorable person I no longer need to be decptive" I can do this, I know I can do this"
You might need to be on medication. Or maybe you need to meditate and get your body totally relaxed and only let positive energy in to your brain. Your will is stronger than you can ever imagine.
About leaving your home. The problem with that is that.....no matter where you go.......there you are. Think about it.
2006-06-22 04:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all lie every now and then, but you've got to stop lying about insignificant things. Your parents may be upset on some of the things you've lied about, but the more you lie the bigger the lies become and the bigger the problems, so quit now while your ahead. You're only 17 why leave your home over a few lies?
Keep in mind, your parents know everything and anything about your personality, You may only be cheating yourself. They can tell when your lying.lol
2006-06-10 12:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty leads to righteousness. Dishonesty leads to greater dishonesty. Criminal behavior begins with lying. Stop it. If you cannot be truthful with your parents, then you cannot be truthful with anyone else. If your parents do not expect anything from you it is because you have not offered them anything that they can believe in, or they just do not care about you. I do not know anything about your family situation, but it appears that you are not receiving much in the way of love if you want to leave home at 17. Running away from the situation will not solve anything---you carry your problems with you wherever you go. Sit down with your parents and confess your lying and ask them for forgiveness and LIE NO MORE. Jesus loves you. Trust him.
2006-06-24 07:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be surprised at how good you will feel if you start telling the truth.... A big load will be taken off your shoulders, even with all the little things... Don't think your parents are stupid, they probably already know...... I always did and do with my kids, they can't handle the guilt so they come forward most of the time.... I can make them feel guilty without them knowing it.... It sounds like your parents are doing the same thing.... " The truth will set you free" try it.......... Good Luck !!!
2006-06-24 11:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen Hermy just sit down and talk to your parents,as one,we really don't expect that much, just for you to be happy. Sure you can leave but be honest with yourself where are you going to go?Its a cold hard world out there and you can't lie your way through life.At seventeen,my advice is to stay in school and stay with the parents you say you love.
2006-06-23 09:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are 18 you can, and you will find out quickly how nice it is at home! Your parents will understand if you come clean with them. They were teenagers too believe it or not. Try to hang in there until you are 18. When you turn 18, and your parents are no longer legally responsible for you, you will appreciate them more!
2006-06-23 20:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Running away doesn't solve anything. If you really love your parents then stay and work on improving your situation. You may need to see a counselor to discuss this and find out why you are lying. Usually, your school would have someone who they would recommend or who is at your school. Try that. Good luck.
2006-06-23 17:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Linda B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confess dude they may punish you but that means they love you and they do exept nothing but the best from you if you tell them true they will be hurt but they will get over it so do what I would do never lie to them again and by all means earn their trust it will make a difference in yours and their lives knowing they can and will trust you but remember it wil take a long time to build that bridge again. I hope things turn out good for you and them.
2006-06-24 09:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by illprayforyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation,most of that teenage level are prone of whit lies to their parents to cover up their mistakes and wrongdoings,thats normal nowadays! Yes you cheat from them, if you have guts try to talk to them and confess all your lies and wrongdoings or write a letter to you parents,but dont leave your home,you will just ruin your life, i am pretty sure yopur parents loves you so much and they dont want you to ruin your own life!be open an be honest the next time!Try to fix you problem by telling your aunts ,uncle or guidance counselours!
2006-06-23 02:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋