I have a tight family. But my sister is very busy in life. I am younger then her and married w no kids yet. She has 2 kids and a very high paying job. But everytime i want to see her or the kids, she acts as if im an incovinience. She even says so She hasnt been over my house ever! She says she too busy. i e mailed her and told her this and she got offended. What do i do now?
2006-06-10 04:54:10 · 11 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just give her time, dont email or call her for a while, she will come around. Lots of people get annoyed when ppl constantly want to see them, when they feel like something is out of reach, they want to bring it back....try not talking to her for about a month... if she still doesnt came around, something might be wrong w/her and she might be trying to hide it.... but as lon as u know she's ok, dont push it
2006-06-10 05:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sound cruel, but You have your own life, live it! whether she wants to be a part of it or not is her choice. Let her see that you don't need her, and let see how miserable she will be when she doesn't have you to turn to. as for her seeing you as an inconvinience and being offended when you tell her, ask her, how does she think you feel, and ask her if it was the other way around, how would she feels!? some people are like that, they don't treasure what they have until they think they're gonna loose it. Just give her distant and see how she likes it.
In short, don't think that you lost her, make her think that she lost you. Best of Luck
2006-06-10 12:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a shame that she can see you that easy and she does not.
I do anything to see my sister...I know that a good job and 2 kids and ... makes her very busy but she has to know that she is missing a big part of her life... ( her sister )
I do not see my sister not cuz I do not want or I do not try ... cuz I can not :( she is living in another part of the world and it is so hard to get to see each other... I miss her like a heal and I wish I could see her every single day...
I guess you can not do anything it is her life .. just let her know how much you miss her and love to see her even for a short coffee out...
Good Luck
2006-06-10 12:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is very stressed out right now because high-paying job = high stress. she doesn't mean to be mean to you by making you feel like an "inconvenience" or something --- she is just stressed. believe me, whenever we are stressed there are things we do or things we say that we regret later on when we are no longer stressed.
what you can do to establish connection with your sister is to offer help to her. because she may feel like she needs to entertain you when you come over and she has her hands full. you can call her and tell her you want to see her and is there anything you can do to help her or something like that. i bet she would very much appreciate that.
if she refuses, give her time... it's tough juggling marriage, kids, and high-paying job you know... on top of chores, bills, etc.
2006-06-10 12:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just give her some space..seeing as how you say you're family is tight, then she's probably just pre-occupied with other things right now..if you give her enough space, she'll soon enough come around and realize that you're there for her and she'll see that she needs you and will come to you. she probably doesn't really mean it when she says you're an inconvenience...she's probably just going through a lot right now...i have 2 sisters myself and i know how strong sisterly bonds are..so don't worry!!
2006-06-10 12:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by seventy seven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't attack her just tell her how you feel. My sister and I had a fight and were mad at each other. She wouldn't answer her phone however I missed my niece so I would contact her and ask to pick up my niece. Eventually she got over it and started talking to me and we worked everything out. She was mad at 1st because I was honest on how I felt but understood afterwards.
2006-06-11 06:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by Kelé 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a bit more understanding...if she's that busy, it probably is difficult for her to see you when you want her to. Give her time, leave her alone. Eventually, she will miss you and will seek you out.
2006-06-10 12:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. O'Clock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even tho she says shes too busy im sure thats not always tru. i mean if shes busy and has no time then she shuld make time. but i think shes like avoiding u maybe but not wanting to c u. the best thing to do is try to talk to her face-to-face somehow like drop by at her house sometime. or u culd try to talk to her husband bout it and c wat he suggests.
good luck
2006-06-10 14:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say she's jealous of you because she is so busy. Invite her to lunch and have a talk with her.
2006-06-10 12:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Diana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her and tell her how you're feel about this...and try to meet up with her face to face when you're telling her..its better than saying what what you wanna say on the phone..
wish you all the best;)
2006-06-10 12:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by ☼Domino Du Trois☼ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋