2006-06-10 04:35:41 · 57 answers · asked by Jeffina C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'd say if he's in jail on a good charge, it's time for her to move along. Why on earth would you waste your time on a felon when there are nice, hard-working guys looking for nice women?
2006-06-10 04:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what did he do? If he is in for petty theft, he's probably a loser, If he's in for drug charges, he's still a loser, if he murdered someone then that speaks for itself. Is he a first offender? Did he make a mistake and says he won't do it again? Is he basically a good person. She should use her own intuition and don't let what other people say to sway her one way or the other. On the other hand, if it was me with my own personal experiences with men, I'd say dump the loser because there is more to life than visiting prison and excepting long distant collect phone calls, and writing letters. Men are always princes when they are on the inside. The goodness they didn't know they had always comes out in jail. As soon as they return home, within a short span of time the good old boy usually returns to the normal bad self in no time. Sorry I know this sounds like I'm a bitter woman and you maybe shouldn't take my advice at all. Good luck anyway whatever you decide to do. Bless you.
2006-06-22 13:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your family doesn't like him is not the point. The point is that having a boyfriend who seems to find himself in jail is a strong indication that this is not a great prospect for a happy life down the road. Cut it off before there are little ones thrown in the mix and the choices are no longer there.
2006-06-24 04:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by RedC. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to accept when your family can't accept the people we love but your cousin needs to go with her heart. Can she live with whatever reason he is in jail for. If it was abuse on her I would have to say listen to the family. When a man abuses a woman it usually doesn't happen just once. I know I have been there. Good luck and try to be happy
2006-06-23 08:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by confused/hurt/angry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the word JAIL....comes to my attention. The word to you would be WHY is this person in JAIL? Your cousins parents have every right to be concerned for their daughter. You should MYOB and stay out of your cousins' business!!!
If your cousin doesn't know why her bf is in jail....it's a matter of public record. Have her go to the nearest circuit clerks office and seek out the information as to WHY he is in jail. People who commit crimes and do JAIL time are usually people that lie, deceive and manipulate the situations to make you feel sorry for them so that they can PLAY victim for sympathy!
I work these manipulators in the legal system each and every day. Trust me...your cousin is better off having this louse in jail.
2006-06-22 23:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a really difficult situation. You how parents react when they feel that their adorable children are hypothetically in danger! The only way to like him is this one: your cousin and her boyfriend (when he is out of jail) to pay a visit on her parents house and have all together a nice talk or maybe have a lunch together. If you were a parent, you may have the same problems, right?
2006-06-10 04:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First why is he in jail. Stealing, drugs, murder? How long will he be in jail. 5 years or more? Well it is good to support someone in jail but it don't make a good future. She should keep an open mind, Mr. Right may come along. Your family may have good reason to dislike him. If he gets out of jail he will have to prove himself of being worthy to get family approval. That is not easily done.
2006-06-20 02:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by sally_little03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should let him go. This sounds harsh but no need to hang out with a jailbird. What future is that? She needs to work on her self esteem. I have counselled someone who waited for a boyfriend in jail too. She just kept hanging on to him it almost destroyed her. She is worth so much more. I know it is hard at the time but she will be of so much better
2006-06-23 13:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by GutsiePerson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, she should move on. She should accept no less then the best, the best is not found in jail. Your family is right, they love her and want her to have a good life.
2006-06-19 11:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by jodi M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually its up to the person dating the boyfriend. The family really doesn't have any say so. If your cousin wants rid of him, then she should just write him a "dear john" letter.
2006-06-24 01:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋