I just find my self wondering why is it that I am single? Is it because I am a sigle mom? I am 5'2, blue eyes, very active, long strawberry blonde hair and get I am sigle. Why is that? I am funny, sweet. Both of my girls fathers left me as soon as they found out I was pregnate and I have been doing it all on my own for 8 years now. I am very independent, hard worker. I for for a school district and I am a technican for NTB. I love working on cars, football, and can still clean up and look like a woman when I get off. So can any one anwser this: what is it that men don't see in me?
2006-06-10 04:01:24 · 14 answers · asked by strawberry blonde 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok here is a little more about my sitituation. I got pregnate the first time I had sex, he wanted a baby I didn't. And well when it happened. He took off and I stayed. Then my 3 year old happen after being engaged to him for 3 years and when he found out i was pregnate he said he did not want to be tied down. So now I do it all on my own. No child support they never even come to see there daughters, never call them or anything. So I just do it the best I can. And I love being a mother, I just would love to find that special man that is not going to run as soon as he finds out I have kids or hate the fact that i am very indepent.
2006-06-10 04:36:30 · update #1
2 kids by 2 different men would keep most decent guys away.....
2006-06-10 04:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by boker_magnum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, there are some but it's rare. And very rare that u will find some1. It's just the facts, u gotta find one who understands, and will allow, and one who is old enough to have kids. Where you looking? Pregnant* by the way, not pregnate. U shouldn't call em men if they leave, especially leaving u when u were pregnant. Wow, u did a really really bad job. Two guys?
2006-06-10 04:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The long answer NO. The short answer is NO. Please remember this no matter what you may know or think, do not become a victim to a man's ego. If he does not want you because you are a single mom then he is an Idiot and believe me you would not want to be around him anyway. So be patient and wait Mr. right is out there some where and closer then you may know ok.
2006-06-10 04:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all , CONGRATULATIONS! I really admire you! You have done some many things by your own! You are a dynamic person and you should be proud of that! And you know something? THAT'S THE REASON MEN STAY AWAY FROM YOU! You have a really strong personality and they feel inapropriate from you. Men prefer ''fragile'' women who need protection from them.
There is also another reason. The fact that you have children make them hesitant. Children mean responsibilities, So, they think that you date them so as to make them ''fathers''. A chicken-attitude, don't you think?
But don't worry! All men are not like that. Avoid on first dates to mention all the time your kids. And keep this in mind: it's not so bad to make them feel protective.....
2006-06-10 04:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men might get scared off when they find out you have kids. If that's the case, you don't want to be with those men, anyway.
There are men out there who wouldn't mind that you have kid. I've known people who got married and the one who didn't have kids adopted the other one's kids, and they were happy families. It happens. Maybe you could join groups like the PTA where there will be single fathers.
2006-06-10 04:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You not making yourself available to the right men. Alot of men see an attractive woman with kids and automatically think that they are married and shy away. If you say you are what you are then you are probably a good catch and someone will seek you out. Be patient
2006-06-10 04:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most think (men and women) single parents have "baggage" on them. And they don't want to be involved with that. Also if you're looking for marriage, step kids can cause huge problems (trust me, I'm a step child), and your prospective partner probably knows that. I for one wouldn't mind dating a single mother if they meet the "criteria" for others I'd date.
2006-06-10 04:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by justanotheruser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell you from experience that a woman having a kid deos not matter to a man if he really loves the woman and if he likes kids to start with anyways ... if he doesnt like kids then what is the point of trying to have a relationship with with him anyways ??
2006-06-10 04:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by sgtdragon2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient.
From your discription you sound like a wonderfull woman. Any man should be very happy to find someone like you.
2006-06-10 07:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by genwizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u are very precoius dating material..even i would like to take out to dinner sometime..lol.. well some guys are just afraid of single mom n they get kind scared when they see a very independent women..andsome dudes are just stupid!..lol
2006-06-10 04:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋