She wants to know why when woman marry they get stuck taking care of their mother inlaw even after the woman should have gone into a home. And why none of the mother in-laws other children help with the care of their mom.
2006-06-10 03:52:37 · 13 answers · asked by me 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
because your mom is a better person than the others......I'm not that good my mother in law could rot and I'd probably just poke her with a stick
2006-06-10 03:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by laura468 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's because the daughter-in-law has a kinder heart than the woman's real children. It is also the daughter-in-law's husband's fault for putting her in that position. She could just refuse and let the poor woman go into a home. The other children should have to contribute to their mother's support.
2006-06-10 03:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work in a nursing home and have seen many different family relationship situations. Believe it or not, it is most common for daughters to care for their moms. Daughters in law do help, but in most cases their husbands are more helpful with their own aging mom or dad. Don't get me wrong, there are many loving daughters in law, but I find it's mostly the daughters and sons that do most of the care. Perhaps this is something unique to your situation. God bless
2006-06-10 04:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in God, let's get that straight. BUT, I don't believe in being a door mat. If you allow it to happen,then live with it. WHY does your mother take care of her? WHY won't her own children take care of her? WHY doesn't someone place her in a home? WHY doesn't her husband jump in and do something when it's HIS mother?
Women don't get stuck taking care of their mother-in-laws unless they allow it to happen. No one can MAKE you do something you don't want to do. If this woman is such poor condition that she should be in a home, that's where I would put her.
Would her husband take care of her mother? Would her husband's family help take care of her mother? I highly doubt it. Think about that.
2006-06-10 12:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, my mother is going through that with her 92 year old mother in law, who hated her when she married her son. They didn't speak for years until my cousins got the deed to her house and then dumped her on my parent's door step. Very sad.......My mom doesn't want to put her in a home 'cause she's scared my grandmother might get abused or not live as well. My mom is a christian who also believes in karma.
2006-06-10 03:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by molly m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My MIL has a rotating **** list and I appear at the top of it, along with my husband, on a regular basis, depending on whether or not we caved to her dominating behavior.
However, if she needed our full-time help or if she needed to come live with us on a full time basis, we would gladly do so for a couple of reasons.
First, and foremost, because we are Christians and fully believe and live what God asks us to do - love everyone, not just the easy ones. So on days when we would rather be walking on hot coals, we would love her and care for her anyway (and stay in prayer ALOT!).
Second, my MIL (and my own mom) sacrificed a lot and put up with more than her fair share of my husband's drug and alcohol years (he is clean and sober over 10 years now). She stuck by his side when he was unlovable and no one else wanted to be around him, including his father. Should we do any less for her?
Third, for me, it is the best way I can think of to honor my husband - join with him to care for his mom. He would do it for my mom in a heartbeat!
If her MIL becomes abusive or is in need of true professional assistance (either LVN or medical care), then the hard decision needs to be made to put her in a place where she can get what SHE needs. Even that is a loving act. It is about our MIL, not our own comfort.
Good luck to your mom and God bless her for taking on a tough assignment. Believe me when I tell you that God is taking notice, even if no one else is, and it is His reward we seek in Heaven, not the accolades from people.
2006-06-10 04:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times it may be because the other members in the family have to much going on...They conclude your mom is a loving..caring person. And she also has the time. Or they may just plain be ignorant! Have a family meeting. Write down a list of all your mom goes through in a week. Have it handy. Show the family....then ask for support. Money...etc. Don't let them push your mom around. Don't let them hem and haw about THEIR responsibilities! Pray for your mom and your grandma. Give her a hand, mentally and physically....also.....CLAP for her that kind of hand. She's tuff!
She will be rewarded! Also it may be usefull to copy down these answers your receiving and show them to the rest of grandmas family.
Good Luck
2006-06-10 04:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom doesnt take care of her mother in law the sons do
2006-06-10 03:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people don't care anymore. this country has gone to hell because of it. sounds like her children are no good, like most people in the world. if they'd all pitch in alittle i'll bet they could afford a home nurse.
2006-06-10 04:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Stuie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i take care of my own mom and she is such a bad person that sometimes i think it would be easier to take care of my mother in low instead of her
at list my hubby would appreciate me for that
2006-06-10 03:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by qwq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋