If marriages are so sacred and so devine why do we find many men and women so unhappy in marriage?

Question

Does divinity of marriage requires the help of some mortal help to blossom? If its indeed a creation of god he would have made sure that all people who obey him and marry would stay in bliss. if he can create birth and death , he can surely do this? Any opinions?
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Answer 1

Nothing given in the game of love is without effort. All things that bloom when love is present is due to the work of both parties. God may have blessed the union but it's up to the people to make good of that blessing.

You assume that God will make everything a OK without effort. That's quite a naive way to think.

Answer 2

Marriage is divine but the participants are not. They are fallible and having free will, they make a lot of mistakes.

The Catholic church has made it mandatory for engaged coupled to wait six months before they can be married in the church. During that period, they are required to attend classes dealing with the basic issues that they will encounter during marriage. The ones that deal with money, how many children do they want, should the wife stay home after the children come, are they neat or sloppy etc. Too many couples fall in lust and forget to discuss the important things before they marry and bring innocent children into the mess they have created.

Answer 3

Unhappiness in marriage occurs when one or both parties are drawn away by their own lust.., AND .., selfishness. Me.., Me.., Me.., both men and women are just as guilty.

Another factor is married couples in todays generation think that their lives have to be spiced consistently comparing their lives to TV shows, magazines with stupid "Is your marriage failing" quizzes, and know it all professionals on marriage who really know nothing and have a hard time running their own lives.

There are so many factors involved it would take a book to get it all written down in a more detailed provable fashion and NO BODY wants to read lengthy text in these Answers sections.

These are the highlights. People need to get off the "ME" jag and stop confusing "comfortable with each other" with boredom. LIFE married or not is never a consistent bed of roses. When people marry - this "me" business or blaming the other one for every little petty thing has to stop.

Marriage IS sacred - but if the married couple who do not treat it as such..., doom their own marriage before the "I Do"s are said.

Answer 4

Most of the people that I know got married for the wrong reasons.
Some because, speaking from the man's side, she was really sexy.
Because she was so much fun to be around.
Because her family had money.
And then lets face facts some men married the first girl they fell in love with.
I've been married for 33 years and I will be the first to tell you that it's a hard road sometimes.
It's also based on many other things other than sex.
My wife and I have grown together over time, not grown apart
But then we also are of the same beliefs and faith and yes we invited God into our marriage.

Answer 5

When you have an unsacred and undivine human(s) engage in something sacred and divine, they may very well be unhappy. However, that does not diminish the sacredness or divinity of the institution--in this case, marriage.

The Bible is sacred and divine, yet, many people are unhappy with what they read in it. Why?

The Bible gives the reason.

(1 Corinthians 2:14 KJV) But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.

Spiritual things, including the sacredness of marriage, can only be discerned, understood and appreciated, if one has the Spirit of God.

So, when you see people in a marriage who are unhappy, especially chronically unhappy, you may conclude that one or the other of the partners may not have the Spirit of God, especially in the marriage.

Lawrence
http://www.truebiblesermons.com

Answer 6

A lot of people jump into marriage without the true respect of Gods Union....If in your heart you believe and your partner believes. God is always there for asking through the Good and Bad times. You have to understand God gave us a mind to Make choses. He gave us feel will. It is up to us to listen. There is alot of temptation lurking about...The Devil, wants to destroy anything God has Blessed upon us. Listen to your Savior..and your Union will last. Me I married at 17..Made 29 years last week.

Answer 7

Marriage is surely divin, given to man to gain happiness.
It comes with the package of love, patience, committment etc.
When marrige depart from these rules, marrige will fail.

If God started to control our will to obey, non of us will be happy.
Did not God ask man to love their neighbor? How many of us can do that? Most of us is having trouble believing in God, never mind about listening to God's marriage rules.

Answer 8

People make their OWN happiness.

Choices determine a LOT of your happiness.

Some things you don't have a control over.

Whether it's A JOB, or a MARRIAGE, or a BOAT TRIP, or a WALK or a NEW HOME.... or anything... How you choose and how you RESPECT that choice... determines how happy you'll be.

Most people look at GETTING MARRIED as the "GOAL" when really it's just the "START of the JOURNEY".

Answer 9

Normally, because they based their relationship on the wrong things to begin with, selfishness, promiscuity, attacks by society, physical changes, all lead to unhappiness.
That tight hard body you thought was so hot, will sooner or later lose the battle of gravity, if you don't truly love whats on the inside, marriage can be torture.

Answer 10

I think a lot of the problem is simply that people tend to think of marriage as something you do just because it's always been done and that's the way it is, instead of looking at it as something God told them to do, and they don't put Bible principles into action once they are married.