After telling this guy that I don't date coworkers, and 6 dates later, we are dating exclusively:) I was the one holding back but now that we are a couple and we have been intimate twice I am falling for him hard. I am thinking of him all the time and imagining us getting married! Should I try to cool my own jets? I am afraid to tell him how I feel?
2006-06-10 03:08:14 · 9 answers · asked by icu812 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take off those rose colored glasses at look at reality. You can have a relationship with someone at work as long as the two of you do not fall in the same group. Let whatever happens there stay there. After six dates you should not be so wrapped up. Yes cool down a little and just enjoy the ride awhile. Talk about the future and what the goals are in your life and his. Learn all you can about his past for there are clues to his future there. Likewise he is checking you out and trying to check out the potential. Good luck but take your time. Long talks and travels together are more important than rocking the sheets.
2006-06-10 03:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by hardnose 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't poop where you eat. well you ignored that one so lets see....
i wonder if one of the enticing things about you was that you told him you didn't date co-workers (so he had to try harder with you)?
putting all of your cards on the table all at once makes the other person less intrigued by you. i would wait at least 90 days. 90 days is the length of time it takes for people to "drop the act" and be themselves. you should have an idea what you are jumping into before you actually do it.
marriage is a lifelong commitment. i wouldn't want to base that commitment on 6 dates and two sessions of hot, steamy sex.
i pray that it works out for you and i am glad you found someone, i really hope he is as neat as you are.
2006-06-11 01:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by thom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if i were you, i would definately try to hold back for a while. 6 dates is not enough. And don't tell him how you really feel. what is he gets scared and starts acting weird? That would put stress on you, and your work. Just be cool. If you're patient, things will work themselves out. good luck
2006-06-10 10:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by tbird00719 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah.. u've definitely 'fallen 4 him hard' as u put it! and yes u shud definitely cool it a bit -- i know thats pretty tough -- but basing my opinion on the general %age of guys - playin hard to get often helps in cases like this - works more than the 'chasing after' thing at least.
but its actually up to u coz u're the one who knows him best i suppose -- so u should be the best judge of what u wanna do; that depends of course on the kind of person he is...
so all the best but the most important thing -- whatever happens never lose ur self-prestige:):)
2006-06-10 10:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that before you totally open up with all of your feelings that you try and talk to him, and see how he feels about you first. Because if you tell him you are nuts about him, and he doesn;t feel the same, it might be a little uncomofrtable for both of you at work. If he is really crazy about you too, well then, great!
Good Luck.
2006-06-10 10:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by JeffyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww your in love now. well wait for awhile and then ask him how he feel about you two in the relationship. I hope things turn out okay.
2006-06-10 10:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um yes, u don't know the guy! My god, ur easy. Ur way too young, thinking way too soon about marriage. It's lust. And marriage is about love not lust.
2006-06-10 13:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u feel, but don get too hyped, he might leave you in the dumps.
2006-06-10 10:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEST TO JUST LET NATURE TAKE ITS COURSE, KEEP IT REAL AND TAKE IT SLOW...
2006-06-10 10:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋