I took her out to dinner and she came back to my place and we made out a litte bit.. as I was taking her home she tells me that she really likes me... when I try to get a hold of her the next day she doesnt answer my sms or phone calls... I dont know whether to leave it alone or what?
2006-06-10 02:20:28 · 11 answers · asked by rhoten_19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give her a week if you still can't get in touch with her best hang that one up and start over...If you call her or send her too many messages that's a turn off for her...She will think you a little too controlling give her some time and space..
2006-06-10 02:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi... Ok first it depends on how long ago this date was, and how many times you have called or messaged since the date. If it has been just a week and you have called more than three times, and she hasnt called back at all, then most likely she is not interested any more.
Sometimes when someone goes on a date and realizes their not that into that person, they say something nice to avoid hurting someone to their face and or having to answer a bunch of questions as to why they will not go on another date with you, so ending the date politely is an easier option, because when the calls come, you can avoid them until someone gives up, and that way they didnt have to deal with it. YES that is selfish, but yes it happens a majority of the time, most people dont want to hurt someone intentionally.
As a last measure if you think you need to, call one last time, leave your phone number and say something on the message like " hey this is the last time I am going to call, hope to hear back from you, but if I don't... oh well" if you dont hear back from her after that, then I am sorry to say, you were politely blown off... and really, it wasnt very polite at all.
Keep one last thing in mind..... You shouldnt call or message a lot, it makes you look needy and that is something most people run from... and women and girls talk a lot, and she will share all that with her friends... as difficult as it may be, if she doesnt call back.., take it as what it as.. a good date for you... and walk away.
Just a side note here... if I "really" liked a guy, I would have called him the very next day just to keep the fire going... I just dont think she is interested...
I hope I am wrong tho...
Tawny
2006-06-10 09:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tawny Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been a few days, you did the right thing by calling her the next day, but give it some time. If you don't hear back from her within a week, then I'd say forget about it. But if you call too much you'll come across as needy and pathetic.
2006-06-10 09:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, I feel your confusion. I think that she might be playing games with your head, not out of spite, but because she is a girl! I think you best just take it easy and don't flood her phone with messages (you don't wanna look desperate so early!).
Take a breather, wait patiently, and see what happens...say in the next 2 days or so. She has no excuse not to contact you since you have done your part. The ball is in her court and if she wants to play games, throw in the towel and wait for the next game :)
2006-06-10 09:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell u something little boy, i actually have this experience, what should u do is play some online gaming with her, first introduce her the game. Tell her to promise that she will play it often, try this .... this may help! Good luck
2006-06-10 09:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by CoolJoker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying, if you really like her. Maybe shes curious and testing you.If you don't stop it will show her taht you don't give up so easy.
Good luck, I hope you and her the best xx
2006-06-10 09:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by Laura M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a little time if you dont hear from her within 2 days then try and call her
2006-06-10 09:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by mattman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could be busy. Holy ****! A guy who doesn't wait 2-10 days? Omg! I'm guessing ur wanting action, and she's easy.
2006-06-10 13:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. Maybe she was busy? Maybe she just needs time to think about things. Go ahead and give her another call, just don't get mad if she doesn't answer.
2006-06-10 09:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by goshimwaycool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for her, leave her some messages. she might change her mind and cotact you instead of vice cersa. but if she doesn't answer your calls after twol weeks I think you should leave her.
2006-06-10 09:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋