my husband attends 3-4 meetinmgs a week, I feel it is too much and feel that he has put his meetings ahead of his family. He really was not a heavy drinker, would stop after work at the bar and drive home. Did not drink at home and would go weeks without drinking at all. Also spends weekends driving those around who,ve lost their licences. Isn't that TOO much?
2006-06-10 02:17:57 · 8 answers · asked by Donna M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One of the things that I learned being in recovery is those who do not attend meetings reguraly relapse,You ned to ask your self do you really want him to relapse their are so many things you guys can do as a couple go to open AA meetings with him go to Alanon meetings their are dances in AA,picnics conventions,campouts go to those with him.After having 15 yrs sober I still go to 2-4 a week.Its the only way to stay sober
2006-06-10 02:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by jchas64651 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband is a recovering drug addict clean 8 years. He does NA meetings.
He goes to a meeting every morning.
He also goes to an extra meeting if there is stress or other triggers around him.
He reads his step book alot.
I hate to tell you this but AA/NA meetings do come before family. The number one reason people go back to drink or drugs is that they quit going to meetings. He has to want this more than he wants anything else. More than money, sex, friends, or you. A recovering addict in the house chanages everything.
And the amount of beer he drank or the time he spent drinking has nothing to do with anything.
There is no such thing as "too much" time spent staying sober. It takes the time it takes.
You need to get to an alanon meeting and learn to deal. Or you may find yourself with a drunk husband.
2006-06-10 02:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by jymsis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Don't worry, it's better than the alternative. They have to work the 12 steps, and that can take years. Even then, the meetings will help, and helping others (the chauffeuring around) is another way to deal with it. My husband's been teaching quit smoking classes for years now since he quit drinking and smoking. That was 12 yrs ago.
2006-06-10 03:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after 15 years my dad still goes around three times a week and to me that seems obsessive , but I guess everyone having the same problem they probably just enjoy one anothers company .
2006-06-10 02:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by shellers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with you. It sounds like he's become addicted the the meetings. I've heard of that happening before. You should try to discuss it with him.
2006-06-10 02:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's for you to decide. your husband has to do what he feels he needs to do to stay sober and you should support him in that unless you'd rather have your alcoholic husband back. every person is different.
2006-06-10 02:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by heterophobicgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY AS MANY AS THEY NEED OR AS MANY AS THEY DO everyone is different there is no CORRECT answer to this babygavine@yahoo.com staci
2006-06-17 00:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by babygavine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's not such thing as "too much"... do you want him to drink> get into Al Anon... it'll help you understand
2006-06-10 03:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋