Is it good to beat your child with a belt when they do somethin wrong?

Question

I just be outside and i will see mothers and fathers smacking thier child across the face or hittin them wit the belt on their buts.I have a 1 yr. old and i will never beat him becuz i think its child abuse and even if it wasnt child abuse i still wouldnt beat him.But i wanna know: Why do parents think they have to beat their child when they do wrong? Is it considered child abuse? does it affect the child?

I neva beat my child i wanna know why others do?

i used the wrong word.i dont mean beating as in punch and kick andstuff i mean u know wit a belt a couple time

I say in my haed why beat ur child,tthey just do wat they see,i think it makes them worst,becuz u make them mad wen u beat(spank) them and they will do somethin that will make u mad again

yea i wacth super nanny and the way she handle things is amzing and i will handle situations as in wat she do

ok in my family beat is as the ssame as spank.im just using it in the same situation.i dont mean beat as in goin snd punchin them in the face or stomach i mean as in spankin them on the hand or butt.

but in my family we use belts sometimes except me i dont even yell at my child

Answer 1

By 'good' I presume you mean 'effective'.

No. Children are mirrors. They mimic.

If you beat them, they will mimic that behaviour, hit other kids at school. They will get in trouble at school. They will stop learning at school because school for them is a place of punishment.

When they grow up, they will hit their lovers, children.

Domestic violence and child abuse are crimes. It is a cycle.

Give your kids choices. Make them understand that each choice they make has a benefit, not just a consequence.

Answer 2

This is most definitely abuse and should be reported. A lot of parents think that beating their children will make them behave when in fact it will only make the bahavior worse. Parent's also tend to do really stupid things when they're frustrated and don't know how to handle a situation. Those parents need some kind of assistance, such as parenting classes or therapy. Parenting is a very difficult and frustrating thing but people need to remember that they are the adults and they need to control their temper's and handle situations maturely. At some point, every parent wants to just wail on their kids. It's the ones who control that urge and come up with responsible punishment's that are good parents. It's the ones that don't know how to control it that usually end up abusing their children.

Answer 3

I think beating a child is wrong but some parent do not know any other way of controlling their children. One must have great pschological skill to deal with children. Their thinking skills are on the learning and exploring channel where ours as adults have seen that program in many different way.

Some parents have a pre-consceived notion that if they do not beat their children the end result for the child in his future could be more detramental than if they beat the child to train (him or her) discipline. As in "spare the rod spoil the child."

Answer 4

There is a huge difference between a smack on the bottom and beating, I don't agree with either but then again I am not saying under certain circumstances a quick smack on the bottom doest hurt. Beating is different and I do believe that is child abuse and should not be tolerated, it is completely unnecessary and there are better ways to parent....I do respect the right of each parent to spank their child (NOT BEAT) and if a few more did we wouldn't have so many disrespectful young people taking life for granted.

Answer 5

When they're not old enough to be reasoned with (and don't tell me you can reason with a four-year-old), a spanking is reasonable. Smacking kids across the face, pulling their hair or ears, using a closed fist -- that's unreasonable. But if you've got a little brat on your hands who's having a tantrum, and you decide to spank the little **** in front of me, I'll applaud.

Keep in mind that when I say "spanking", I mean with bare hands. Using a belt, or a stick, or whip is a bad idea, especially once the kid is old enough to take the weapon from you and fight back. You have to handle a young child the way you would a puppy: discipline has to be immediate, or the child won't connect the discipline with what he did to piss you off. But once the discipline is over, make it clear to the kid that you love him.

Don't pay attention to people who tell you that violence is always wrong or that it doesn't solve anything. When it isn't possible to reason with somebody, violence is the answer.

Answer 6

This is what spanking and hitting a child will do:
It leads to fear and avoidance. It gives children confusing messages and makes them think that using violence to solve problems is okay. It can introduce problems later on as they grow up for example bullying others, agressive behavior, criminal behaviors, stealing and domestic violence. Parents will spank out of their own anger and frustration because it makes them feel better. I believe it also makes the child become sneaky. It doesn't stop the unwanted behavior long term and children will do anything to avoid being hit. They aren't given a chance to learn from their mistakes, learn how to solve problems, use good judgement, control emotions, or feel confident and secure. Important factors needed as adults in life. You basically change who they are when you hit them. It is hard to justify the admonition "Don't hit!" while the parents are spanking the child for hitting. It is just a wimpy, uneducated, destructive way of parenting. Buy some discipline books. No expert recommends that spanking is effective. If you make spankings really hurt, then you are crossing the line leading to abuse. Good for you to not spank, your child is lucky. Everyone on this site who responded should read the link below.

Answer 7

No-one should hit a child. There are better ways of disciplining them. Those people you mention should watch "SuperNanny" on TV. The reason they do it was because it was done to them and it just feels natural to belt the kid. (You can tell how bad it was for the parents by seeing how badly they treat the child). All the same they shouldn't be allowed to beat their children. If it is ever very bad you should tell someone, to get help for the child.

Answer 8

NO WAY. a child should never be smacked or hit with any object. if you must smack your child it should be with your hand on the bottom. i personally dont believe in smacking as it is disrespectful to children. there are other ways to discipline your children. time out is the best or take things away from them for a day. it is definately child abuse and all sorts of child abuse affect children in many different ways. children always remember and can react later in life.

Answer 9

no, it is not wrong to discipline your child when they do something wrong. yes, it is wrong to beat the hell out of them. it is one thing to spank your child(ren) when they behave badly, or do something wrong, but it is totally different ball game to just beat them for every little thing. i am glad for you that you may have never had to spank your child, but keep in mind, all children are not like yours. every child has their own personalities and some children understand in different ways. not all parents who spank their children just started doing it for fun. it is a process and a last resort when all else fails (meaning time outs and loss of priveleges and all the other things that tell you to do in those knids of books). If you see someone beating their kid and liking it then you have a serious problem to worry about. next time why don't you try going up to the parents that you see doing this and ask them why do they spank their child. teaching your child respect and manners the best way that yopu know how, should not be criticized and judged from someone else's standards of how children should be raised

Answer 10

This is a very thin line. I do believe that slapping a child IN THE FACE is wrong. However I believe the use of a belt on a childs butt is acceptable to PARTICULAR CIRCUMSTANCES. This is a tried and true application throughout history. If you go by DR. Spock or the government. then child raising is done by fad or law. Not all laws are constitutional. I think that love will provide the proper application of correction.

Answer 11

Well, its not right to severely beat up a child. But you definitely have the right to smack your child once a while. Trust me, that keeps the child well-mannered. No offense but i have seen white kids tell says F*** you to their parents cause they never got smacked. On the other hand, any other nationality, they will never be dis-respectful to their parents cause they had been smacked by their parents. I think to instill a little fear is necessary if you want your child turn out to be a good child. Good luck with your kid though...