On thursday this guy spit gum in his hair and told him he was going to beat him up at lunch on monday. I dunno what to do. My friend (lets call him Ben )says not to tell teachers it only makes everything worse. The guy who is gonna beat him up is getting togethor all his friends. i asked Ben if he wanted me to be there and help him, he said , no, he doesn't want any of his friends hurt. I dont know what to do!! please help!!
2006-06-09 23:23:38 · 23 answers · asked by paperbag<3princess 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
listen to dat person dee he/she might b telling the truth but if your real friends u will back him up even if he doesn`t want u 2 back him up **** i would.if your real friends u would do it
2006-06-09 23:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by icp_blunts 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
As long as he didn't provoke it you want to have friends there to keep it fair. Ben is correct, calling in teachers and parents will make it worse. Ben will be seen as a rat and will lose respect. Then it will be a whole crowd picking on him. What Ben should do in my opinion is pre-empt the bully. Catch the bully on ground that gives Ben an advantage. Even if it means getting in trouble if he can get one over on the bully it'll often cause the bully to back off or at the very least make others think twice before picking on him. So for example if he knows the bully will be at a certain place Ben can walk up and dot the bully's eye before anybody knows what's happening. Often the first one to land a good solid blow wins a fight. It might mean a rematch that Ben loses but winning against the bully in a fair fight will establish Ben as having courage and ability.
Getting beat up is a necessary thing all boys have to learn how to cope with. No matter how tough you are there is somebody tougher and until you learn how to deal with that you will be unable to endure many of the things a man must endure during their life. Being compentent in a fight will give a boy the necessary courage and confidence in themselves to be a successfull man. Isolating a boy from fights only makes them insecure and inconfident. A man who has never fought will always have to live with that question of ability in themselves. When men get together they instantly evaluate each other's ability to fight. No matter how friendly the get together and how peacefull the men, subconciously and even conciously they will do this. Until this is resolved nothing furthor can happen. Preventing a boy from fighting will permanently put them at a disadvantage the rest of thier lives around other men.
So I suggest urging your friend to clock the bully when he is not expecting it. No shame in giving yourself an edge in a fight. If the bully comes back do it again and again until he gets the idea. Losing once to somebody he picks on will be devastating to the bully's ego. Having it happen again will make the bully somebody who is picked on. Often bully's aggressive behavior is a direct result of fear. They are scared somebody will beat them up so they pick fights with kids they think they are certain to scare. Even sometimes fight the kid. If they can instill fear they know they will win the fight. The quickest way to lose a fight is to believe in anything but the absolute fact you will win. By beating somebody else up they avoid a fight with somebody who otherwise might beat them up. No matter how big a kid is there is somebody bigger and or tougher.
Second be there in force to break things up if they go badly for your friend. The idea is not to suffer or cause serious injury.
2006-06-10 06:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by draciron 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to tell a trusted adult and if your friend is bashed up get him to have the police charge the people that are responsible
This is really hard to do but it is one way off stopping it also your friend could take an order out against the other person
Make plans so that your friend is not anywhere they can bash him and if need be hang out in the library
2006-06-10 06:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he has a group of friends get a gang war started. If there aren't any tell him to protect himself, and get some painful hits in there. He's probably gonna get the crap kicked out of him anyway but the main thing is these ******* no he's not gonna take it sitting down.
If it looks like he's hurt badly start screaming and they'll stop. Get him to a clinic.
2006-06-10 06:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by GoateeBoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the kid fight. Sounds like he is going to fight back. If he does and stands his ground he will earn respect even if he gets beat up. Tell him to fight as hard as he can and do some damage.
Ps. The last thing this guy expects is for your friend to show up and start swinging. Tell your friend even if he is not big and strong he can do damage.
He needs to show up and not do the push push thing when guy pushes him, he swings at guys nose he does not stop swinging until one of them is beat up on the ground and can not get up.
2006-06-10 06:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to use one handed shove at the center of the chest using the momentum of his body along with the force of his arm this will make them think that he is alot stronger then what he is if done properly. Make sure it isnt a punch, it must be a shove. then the enemy will swing as hard as he can to try and take him out fast. all he has to do then is dodge till they tire and then they will be short work.
2006-06-10 06:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by Spike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he either did something to get someone pissed at him, or he is an emo/scene kid (who doesn't want to kick their asses?). There are so many options, tell him to pick one. For example: if he did something to provoke a fight, tough luck, time to buck up and scrap. Maybe it can be talked out. Maybe it can be avoided all together. Maybe hell forget about it. If its really just gonna be a jumping, maybe be a snitch and tell someone in an authority position? Who knows, its all up to him.
2006-06-10 06:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody here can give you any good advice. They (as I) don't know thge culture at your school.
I would report it. But in some schools that gets you killed, litterally.
If anything I would stand by my friend if he likes it or not. Every friend he has should. Usually there is no mass-fight. Only one wants to fight and that should be zero.
2006-06-10 06:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by Puppy Zwolle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before the guy gets to your friend spread a roamer that he still wets the bed or something that will embarrass him. Hopefully It will shame him out enough he will forget about the fight. ( I don't really condone violence or rumour mongers but if he wants to act like a child you may as well to)
2006-06-10 06:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an anonymouse report to the police giving them the time and date of a big rumble and the police will do their job.
2006-06-10 06:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by toe poe gee gee oh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do dont wag skool because the other boy would think he is more superior, but definitly stand up for yourself and your friend and tell someone about it, whether it be a teacher or parent or friend, if you all work together you can fix it.. i hope it works. good luck
2006-06-10 06:28:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋