it has been a general advice that it is undignifying to have sex before marriage. but some people complain about their spouses sexual ability in marriage which at times leads to extra marrital sex
2006-06-09 21:40:34 · 17 answers · asked by walexy4real 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you both are okay with having pre marital sex then by all means have it .. and yes that is very true about affairs not sure what you get then you have what you both don't want.
2006-06-09 21:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by evilprincess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sexual ability is always something that can be worked on, it's like any other skill. To have extra marital sex instead of working and learning to become better is plain laziness and also carelessness about getting an STD...
What's more at stake is whether the couple can stand living together... some married couples have been known to run from each other screaming after a year of putting up with different habits like leaving the cap of the toothpaste unscrewed...
2006-06-09 22:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are really missing the point and confusing sex with love. You shouldnt get married just for sex in the same way that you shouldnt enter a love-less marriage.
Marriage is a working partnership between a man & woman. If no one had sex before marriage our western culture would not be so preoccupied with sexual performance as you'd have nothing to compare your spouse too!
Sex in marriage is always about giving and exploring eachother. Its also about help and happiness. So what if the man takes 30 seconds to ***! In a loving relationship it shouldnt matter.
Refusal to give sex in marriage is a whole different matter tho.
If you are wondering whether you will be missing out then you really cant love or me inlove with your intended .
2006-06-10 00:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by Iain B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
interesting question.....................
sex can be undignifying in any circumstances - it's not always like it is in the films. sometimes you need to work on it - practice makes perfect. there will be things that you need to work on and things that you both don't like. experimentation, trust honesty
and love are the answers here. ability varies - but it can be fun and sexy finding out what you both like.
as for marriage - does your partner/fiance want to have sex now or later. if you would both like to wait then that is fine. most sexual problems can be solved if you talk to each other honestly and often.
marriage is a wonderful thing, and not to be entered into lightly. but if you are really incompatible then i would not think that it comes just from sex, it would probably be as a result of several different things.
if you love each other and respect each other then go for it.
try discussing this with with your significant other and see how they feel about it - if you are going to have problems then it won't matter if you are married or not, the answer is to work on the problem and make you both happy with each other
2006-06-10 00:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by rheainscotland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is honestly no way to gauge sexual ability without actually having sex with someone. Everyone's anatomy is different as well as their likes and dislikes.
Some guys like to be tied up and some believe that hands should always be used.
Some girls like anal and some will stop talking to you for mentioning it.
The best advice I ever heard was to be open minded and communicate. If you want her to do something you have to tell her. If she wants something done to her she is going to have to tell you. Most of us girls and from what I have learned guys too dont mind instruction at all. Also, just remember Practice makes perfect. The more you practice the more perfect your kids will be!!!!
2006-06-10 03:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no need to have sex before marriage niether myself or my husband had had sex before marriage. sex is not the only thing that makes a good relationship.
If you use the 'try before you buy' attitude you are at risk of all sorts of diseases ect there are also plenty of self help books around on the subject of sex have fun learning and exploring together.
2006-06-09 22:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by mumoftheyear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want it and your partner wants it then do it .
It don't matter if you wait till your married cause you will both learn together you can teach them what you know and vice versa and if there is something you like and your partner don't do right then tell them in a nice way and show them how to do it.most people who have never experienced the pleasure of sex don't know what to do anyway they learn via TV and lets be honest sex on TV sometimes isn't all that anyway. so be brave and not embarrassed to grow and learn together.
2006-06-09 22:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is not sex only. of course it plays the major role at the beginning of marriage but later you'll need a partner. sex before marriage entirely depends on couple will. sex for some family is a taboo. especially in the orthodox family. but all this does not Leads to sex drive. sex drive is entirely depends on your luck. i wish you good luck.
2006-06-10 01:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT is why you should have sex before marriage and live with the person for a little while...
You learn about them, they learn about you... Habits, abilities... Wants, desires...
2006-06-09 22:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both agree with sex before marriage then by all means do it but if one of you disagrees then wait until you are married and make it a special!
2006-06-10 00:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by Katieee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋