my parents are against this relationship coz he is not goodlooking there is no other reason i dont want to leave him just coz of that stupid reason what should i do pls help me i m very nervous. he is really a very good guy.
2006-06-09 21:25:17 · 13 answers · asked by hot chilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're the person that is going to be in the relationship, NOT you're parents. Plus, emphasizing outward appearance is not something parents should teach their children.
If he's a great person and has a great personality, that goes WAY further than his looks. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if you think he's a beautiful person, who cares what he looks like.
I say go for it and if your parents hassle you, just say that you're not dating him for looks, but for the person he is, the way he treats you and the way he makes you feel.
Good luck
2006-06-09 21:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by Toybear_mav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your parents, they're just being shallow for one reason or another, I've given up on trying to figure out why parents do stuff, but if theres one thing I've learned from mine it's that I have to do what's right for me, especially when I know in my heart it's right. If you belive in this guy then do what you feels right, and your parents will fall in line sooner or later. Lol, if it helps at all, it's kind of like getting a first tatoo, most parents hate the idea but once it's done, it's done, that doesn't mean that they'll love you any less and some time they'll even respect your decion because you were the smart and reponisble one that kept your head on striaght and knew what you needed. Parents are only guidlines, ment to be respected but not always followed to the "T". :)
2006-06-10 04:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by mardhearealta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to be SURE that is their only reason. Parents often say something like this when they do not want to voice a deeper worry which might hurt you. If it IS the reason they are so shallow as to be two dimensional and are not worth giving a second thought to. Always go for the guy who loves you and treats you well, it will pay off in the long run.
2006-06-10 04:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by U.K.Export 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind about him, but first of all u have to investigate very well about this guy becos guys can be very deceitful though dat the outward appearance does not really matter.
And also u have to go to your parents and pledge with them to tell you the reason why they are against the relationship becos they may be something they have seen in this guy which u have not seen and may not be able to seen until both of you are married so talk to them and get their opinion about the whole truth and if their reason is genuine enough reason with them cos the effect later on is very drastic.
2006-06-10 04:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mylove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain it to your parents. First by yourself, then with that guy. Tell your parents that looks can easily be modified. By the way, Have you asked your parents if what exactly is their reason why they didn't like the guy??? I don't think it's just because of his looks. It's too silly. Maybe they know something about the guy that you don't. But then again, maybe that's just their reason, but ask them anyway.
2006-06-10 04:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by athame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bring up the fact to your parents how incredibly shallow their system of evaluating others is based on what they look like?
You sound like you have some depth of character and that is rare.
2006-06-10 04:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by mrfoster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There come's a time in your life where you have to stand up for yourself,Nobody can live for life for you,If you let others live your life,You will never find happiness...Happiness only come's when you allow it to come!....So my advice, is to be with the dude reguardless of what anyone think's...I know they are your parents and you respect them..But stand up for yourself,Tell your mother be like look...I like this guy alot!....And it's my destiny to be happy...Reguardless of what you and dad says,I wanna be happy!...
2006-06-10 04:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by mizz_tooshort 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with him. it is not your mom who is going to live with him. go on meeting him without telling your mom if possible. That is nonsense because he is not good looking. the most important of all is character. you won't like a guy becuase he is good looking and has a bad character
2006-06-10 04:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well who cares about what other people say. If you like him then you shouldn't leave him because your parents don't think he is good looking.
2006-06-10 04:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by coolchik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that it's none of their business how he looks like. You're the one who's gonna live with him and see him everyday,. It's up to you!
2006-06-10 04:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋