we had a really long conversation today... he confessed that he has another girlfriend... i was like.. do you like me, he said yes.. i asked do you like her.. -yes, do you love me - im starting to , do you love her- NO... are you going to leave her- NO... what do i do... i like him.. i dont love him but i am starting to, he said hes only with her because she gives him what i dont (SEX) wtf... I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO... HELP ME.
2006-06-09 20:44:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My Dear:
I have been on this rock for the last 51 years, and i have found that true love is what you make of it, and it takes two to dance.
But with that there are no garntees in life.
My first marige only lasted 20 years. And that is only becaus she did the one thing that i will not put up with. I cauth her cheating on me with some one i called farther..
Now this woman had every thing a man could give her: A beutilfy home in Westland, Two cars in the driveway, and some one who was devoited to her with out queston.
At that point in time i said to my self (SELF) i done with women.
Then back in 93 I started to date again. Well to make a long story short, I meet a gril who was with some at that time, so she interduce me to her sister who became my wife.
Back in December cancer took her from me, after all most 6 years of marige, and the friend that inetduce me to her was singel now.
She had been absue by so many men that i though that maby i could make a differnce in her life, and for once she could be happy. Well she total out the only transportian that i sherd with her, and I fond out that she was cheating on me.
Now i gave her a place to live, gave her the keys to just about every thing, and did my best to try to make her happy.
Now she is in lock up in Clar county, I am with out transportaion, and i take care of my mother-in-law (2 stroks,1 hart attack), Not to menchien I have to give her a showe every other day wather she wants to or not,(But that is what a good son-in-law- is supose to do),(All dough she weights a little over 300lb).
And I am raising my 15 year old stepson.
It is realy simple Deer,although it dose not always come back. Treat people the way you want to be treated.
If this boy realy loved you, he would not put you on the fence like this.
From some body who has been through just about every thing life can through at him, hang in ther becauce the right man for you will come around.
BEST WISHES
CHEFDIAMONDROY@sbcgobal.net
Best wishes to you and your future!!!!!!!!
2006-06-09 22:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its no point in getting over even if you love him.
Love is something which should have sex to spice up.
All he wants is lust. You will find a better guy loving you not into sex.
It is open cheating and may be he is playing with your mind saying that he loves you and only has sex with the other one.
Long run not worth it. If its her today someone else tomorrow.
Also beware of AIDS. when he has multiple partners.
Stop the relationship.
Its going to be hard for you.
2006-06-10 04:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by Smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to leave him cuz u cannot give wht he wants self respect is a good thing u dont love him he dont loves ya so y r u getting dipressed
2006-06-10 05:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Shery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im saying you dont need a man like that
Im sorry to say but most of us men are pigs. but not all
keep looking you will find some one better.
and someone that wont care about the sex..as much >.<
and will love you for who you are. wont cheat either.
2006-06-10 03:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by xveritas_et_aequitasx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop kick his *** to the curb,if hes cheating on you hes not in love with you,Love is not sex,if he really loves you he will want to be with you and only you,regardless of if you sleep with him or not.
2006-06-10 03:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by Shea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow if that's the situation then you really need to think if it's worth all the frustration that you'll have to deal with knowing he's with someone else. how long have you guys been 'together'? what about him and the other girl? you gotta jus sit and think about everything and really decide if you want to deal with it, is it really worth your time? hope it helps good luck!
2006-06-10 03:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Christa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave him.. if he do loves you he will leave her and come back to you, if he dont so that means that he choosed sex not love, so u deserve better.
2006-06-10 03:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by GOUGOU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your standards and dump any idiot who is playing a game like that
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-10 03:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. If he doesn't love you and you don't love him, and he says he isn't going to leave her be, then he needs to go.
2006-06-10 03:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by scare_all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is such a prick if he cant stay true to u then leave em i mean sleepin wit another gurl? how desprite
2006-06-10 03:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by santana w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋