my mom always shelters me, i want her to let me go to more parties than just my trustfull friends. She refuses to meet anyone else, and wont let me have the kind of fun i want. She doesnt trust the society and always thinks something bad is going to happen to me. Nothing happened to her when she was my age, and now i just want to burst out of my bubble and be able to be the spontaneuos person that i am today. I get perfect grades, straight a's and i've never had a boyfriend. I dont know what reason there would be for her to not trust me or anything else in this world. I've tried talking to her, but she doesnt accept what i'm saying, and i really just want to have fun in this stage of my life. Please help!
2006-06-09 19:58:37 · 6 answers · asked by fuzzy19 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
hmmm....everyone too including me have this problem, but mine is not serious adn my mom treat me very well. ur mom want the best of u, u should not be angry to her. She just worried about u. okay, this is my opinion.
1. if u really want to go to the party even without her permission, then i suggest that u shouldn't tell her anything about it that means dont quarrel with her. tell her u want to go to school or friend house, or etc. dont wear pretty clothes but put them in ur bag so that she wont doubt of where u r going if u wear pretty clothe in front of her.
2. ask for daddy permission politely. if yes, ask him to advised ur mom and talk to ur mom again that dad support u but politely even if she reject it again dont be rude, just be normal. if no, let it be.
3. get suppport from ur grandpa, grandma, aunty, uncle and etc politely. example, grandma, do u support me to go parties? polite even they dont allow. if they support u, ask them to advise ur mom too. do the same way as 2.
4. make ur mom happy. like study in the house, cooked for her, made a card for her even mother's day is over.
that;'s all. hope that help. and hope u got the right company otherwise i m sorry to help u. in my opinion, even if u she dont allow u, u should not go unless u really want to. for me family is more imprortant than friend. friend will hurt u whereas family wont hurt u very much. if u didnt go, ur friend will thought that u have pride and wont simply go out
2006-06-09 20:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how old are you? I don't think the issue is that she doesn't trust you. I think she doesn't trust the rest of the world to not hurt you, not to mislead you, or teach you something not in your best interest. She'll have to cut the apron strings someday, and if she was like my mom, that will be really hard for both of you. Just keep doing what you are doing by showing her how responsible you can be. Make sure you surround yourself with caring and responsible friends. Don't bring around a lot of new people all at once. Bring them in gradually. Once she sees how good you do with your choices, she'll have to start letting go a little. As far as you saying nothing happened to her when she was young, so it won't happen to you either is really a load of crap. Sorry about that, but what I was allowed to do as a young person, isn't something that I allow my children to do. Times have changed, and not for the better. Just be patient, you're time will come.
2006-06-17 02:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother seems to be trying to protect you from the evils of the world today but sometimes holding on too tightly causes people to break away anyway. I think that she doesn't trust society and feels that you may be a follower and not strong or wise enough to make good decisions. Sooner or later you will venture out without your mothers blessings, we all did!! Just take care and let her know where you're going and who you'll be with. Leave her a phone number so she can reach you. Keep reasonable hours. I don't know your age but I give you props for your perfect grades. She is trying in her own way to protect you. Love her for that but she needs to realize that sooner or later she will have to let go. Us mothers do that to our children. We just want you all to be o.k. We watch over you even whey you're grown. I don't know how you'll convince her but keep trying and when and if she lets you go, always be respectful. God Bless!
2006-06-10 03:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by onejandasmay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, its difficult for a parent, specially a parent of a young lady, not to be paranoid. Check out the news. Parents' also have wild imaginations - about the dangers their daughter can run get into.
Show her you're responsible and careful. Avoid being childish when explaining your side. Prove to her that she can count on you. That's the first part of softeniing her up. Next is proving that you understand her fears (you really have to understand them, for real, girl). This may need someone to back you up, your Dad or trusted family member.
The word "fun" is a danger sign to a parent of a teenage girl. Ask her to let you be responsible for your actions, to participate in activities that would simulate your social skills. Negotiate with her.
Don't act as an enemy, nor treat your parents as an enemy. Its painful for a parent to let go right away, and more painful when that precious little bundle of joy they once had turn into someone they no longer recognize.
2006-06-10 03:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by Eiznot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has life experience, and she probably knows you better than anyone else. She's doing the best that she can to protect you and steer you through the most difficult growth period of your life. It's not what you want to hear, she really does know best.
I'm guessing that you're about 14-15 female. At your stage of development your desire to become independent is so strong that your judgment is actually impaired. Your drive to be with peers and people of the opposite sex is powerful, and your mom knows it because she's been there..YES she has!
The best way to get your mother to see your perspective on things is to try for a compromise. What kind of fun is it that you want to have???? Can you say it directly to your mom? Truthfully? If not, then there is your problem.
2006-06-10 03:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by maynerdswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girly. Well, now that you've got like major awards and you're a middel skool grajuit (lol) your mom is bound to give you lots of new privileges...and responsibilities. Something you can do is dress more conservatively and act less promiscuous so your mommy doesn't have to worry about how guys are gonna chase you around. Talk to the ol' sd...he'll help you out.
She's worried about you, be nice to her!
Pick me as best answer :-)
2006-06-16 17:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by Susie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋