I still love him after the 7 mths and no guy has compared. He said no girl compares to me and he said if he could take it back he would cause he lost me. i dont know if this is game to have his cake and eat it too or is he serious. i just keep thinking fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
2006-06-09 19:56:17 · 14 answers · asked by mymy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My fiancee wants to answer you, so here goes:
I'm 28 years old and I've dated many, many men. And I've come to this conclusion; once a cheat, ALWAYS a cheat. Sex is a very, very intimate thing that too many people take too lightly. All of the men I casually dated I didn't sleep with. Why would you want to put yourself in a situation where it could be done again? There are honest men out there and if he truly cared about you he wouldn't have been able to bring himself to be with another woman.
The best advice I can give you is to find out what you want from a man and don't sway from it. Don't pretend to be something you're not - just be yourself. Have some confidence, don't allow a man to walk on you and don't settle for someone. Many women have sex with a man and feel like they're in love because of that extreme physical attachment. This doesn't have to be the case. You made the attachment before you truly knew this person - because if you knew he was a cheater you wouldn't have chose him.
It takes a long time to truly figure someone out. That doesn't mean that you have to wait fruitless year after fruitless year. That means you uncover good things and bad things year after year and you tell yourself if they're acceptable or not. What you need to do is - when you find something unacceptable - pull the plug. In the case of cheating - that's the ultimate betrayal in a relationship.
Just trying to save you some heartache sweetheart, hope it helps.
---my fiancee has been through unmeasurable pain with men in her past, tell yourself if you want to experience it or not. Sounds like a simple choice - it can be.
2006-06-10 02:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl hows life sound it not good well hey say once a cheater always a cheater but sometime people change but not all of them. How long did he want you back if he really love you he won't leave you for 7 month he will try and make it work no matter what.
You said you are still in love does that mean your heart is telling you to stay with him even what happen to you.Tell him he has to earn your trust back and if he fails then this it no more.Good luck hope you make the right decision.
2006-06-10 03:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by sasa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough position to be in...
First, you have to think long and hard about where you stand and how you feel. Listen to your mind, heart, and instincts.
If you choose to take him back, get ready for a lot of work and make sure that you're ready. Trust is more easily lost than replaced.
People who cheat have a tendency to cheat again, but you can't always be afraid or you'll never get anywhere.
If you choose to leave the situation, I'm sure eventually you'll find someone who not only compares, but surpasses this guy....and will appreciate what he has in the moment. Not in retrospect.
Just please be careful....the second injury can be worse than the first. GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-10 03:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Toybear_mav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel that you can trust him and have to ask this question, then why take him back? A good relationship is based not only on love, but trust. A relationship can't last if you don't have trust.
2006-06-10 03:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by yourmother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it a shot. But remember: if you really want everything to work out, do not ever remind him about his cheating. Forgive means to forget. Many couples fall apart when one party reminds another about its guilt and bad behavior.
2006-06-10 03:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and grow wise! Know ye that there are plenty more men out there to choose from... oh yes there are!
Keep dating other men, that's what dating is for... searching for that "one" Mr. Right. Another word for dating is: "sampling".
2006-06-10 03:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by love_2b_curious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he comes back to you then he must really like you cause alot of guys have this big ego thing that they wont go crawling back to the girl so he must really think your special if hes says hes changed then i think you should believe him but just in case you should keep an eye on him
2006-06-10 03:01:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you trust him than okay,but if you think that it is just a game than forget about it.There is lots of different guys out there,and one will be better than this one.if you can trust him go for it ,but you think if he is lieing just tel him no,you dont care,and if he does want you back he will keep calling,asking you out,and came back crying
2006-06-12 14:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys that cheat are buttheads and should not ever EVER be trusted I know from experience the heartache you feel from being cheated on and it is never a good feeling. please try to get over him because it will only end in more heartbreak for you.
2006-06-10 03:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm. all guys cant be trusted my dear.
your guy has CHOSE to cheat. n honestly, i havent met any guy who has actually changed. those who u tink changed, ur wrong, they still go around flirting.
is a habit.
2006-06-10 03:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by tattoo babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋