I recently broke up with a serious relationship because he was very clingy and wanted a more serious relationship than what I wanted, he also continuously accused me of cheating on him. However when I tried to end it, he told me that he had been sleeping with his ex for basically the entire time we had been dating. I dont know if I should hate the ex, or hate him or hate myself because maybe I desearved to be cheated on because I couldnt give him what he needed or something I dunno, I dont know how I should feel.
2006-06-09 19:23:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I just want to know why he accused me of cheating all the time when he was the one doing it all the time. especially since I remember him specifically telling me he hated cheaters and never wanted me to cheat on him. Now he is telling everyone that he thinks he did the right thing all along because I was cheating on him (which I wasnt) is it guilty concience or does he really think that he did the right thing by cheating on me and making me feel worthless by being cheated on by a guy like him.
2006-06-09 20:20:16 · update #1
You ended the relationship for very real reasons. With him telling you that he slept with his ex for basically the entire time you two were together was a tactic to try and hurt you. Bottom line is this: If he is all that you say, clingy, always accusing you of cheating, he's no longer your headache. Don't hate him, the other girl, or yourself. Love him for getting out of your life, love her for taking your headache away, and mostly love yourself for having the common sense to get out a bad situation before you wasted more time.
2006-06-09 19:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1) if you can't stand a clingy man, you shouldn't be with one.
2) trust is one of THE MOST IMPORTANT parts of love, without it love can not grow, survive, or exist. if he thinks he can't trust you, he doesn't really love you, he's just used to the idea of being with you. when he realizes this, he'll end it anyway.
3) the x-girlfriend think could be a lie, but that doesn't really matter. if he's immature enough to lie to you then you don't want him anyway. and besides, we ARE talking about trust here.
4) if he really DID cheat on you (more than likely) then YOU obviously cannot trust him and so: no love, no relationship.
Think about this for a while, and ask yourself if you want to be in a relationship with a guy you don't trust/who doesn't trust you.
The answer should be "no" and then all you have to do is force yourself to keep that line of thinking...
(explain it to him the same way...questions and everything)
good luck
2006-06-09 19:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by bluebonnie1991 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The long and short of this question/answer is simple psychology.
Most men and women will accuse their spouse of significant other of doing what they are doing (And probably should not be doing) This is a guilty conscious talking and it is a way for them to justify what they are doing that is wrong.
I have always made the comment to people who tell me that their spouses are accusing them of cheating to start following them or watching their moves. You will find out who is really cheating soon enough!
2006-06-09 20:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by lancelot682005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a real sicko that sleeps with their ex. I would get away from this creep as far & as fast as I can. He has some deep seated issues here, so it's time to move on. You deserve better. Be happy, everything else flows from HAPPINESS!
2006-06-09 19:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A brake up is all ways hard it doesn't matter who initiated it and everyone trey's to hurt the other one just try to clean out your system and move on there IS life after a beak-up
2006-06-09 19:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by frogger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad
2006-06-09 19:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by ag_iitkgp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just move on and let it go. He might be telling you this just to piss you off like you pissed him off when you broke up with him. You already broke up with him first, it doesnt matter now.
2006-06-09 19:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke it off. Let it be. Don't let him know it bothers you. That is the only reason he told you to begin with. Just to piss you off.
2006-06-09 19:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by Angels girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u both are not fit to enter the goddess of pure that is love. better u both separate and never fall to this again, as u are not fit for this
2006-06-09 19:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't hate anyone especially not yourself. He's probably lying anyway to make you feel bad
2006-06-09 19:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by charbarski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋