He is kind, good natured loving guy, who leads a simple life and will love and protect me all my life. My parents have rejected him on the basis of caste(both of us are Christiatians), economic status and age( he is 10 months younger to me), I am 25 years old.I love him dearly and there's no one else I want to be with.
My parents have threatened to get rid of him at any cost. Ruin his career, and cause embarassment to his family by going legal. He too loves me and will not desert me at any cost. My mom is sick with SLE and there's no cure for it. She is using her illness against me and all the possible emotional blackmail to make me let him go..They have threatened all other family who want to support me against me. I cant convince these people at any cost.
now you tell me what do I do. Is it too much to ask to love and lead my life in my own terms. Help!!!
2006-06-09 19:12:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
help help
2006-06-14 23:41:09 · update #1
Can nobody advice this matter?
2006-06-14 23:41:40 · update #2
u r not a baby anymore so its time that u stand up to them.
2006-06-23 18:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem for you in a nutshell is CULTURAL.
The Indian Culture over centuries has the idea that as the parents of a son or daughter (YOU"RE 25 for Christ's sake) think they have the right to control you.
My advice to you would be follow your heart. Move out of your parents home, make your own life, and make a life that can be shared with your LOVE.
Your parents threatening shows just how much they disrespect you as a 25 yr old. Show some intestinal fortitude and stand up to your parents no matter what the costs may be to you.
fight fire with fire!!!
2006-06-22 23:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like its out of a fairy tail, but follow your heart! Life isn't sugar n' spice, there's going to be road bumps, and big ones too. Your parents care about you greatly, but they aren't always the best judges of things. If your a 100% sure about this guy, go for it. You mom loves you I'm sure, and its a very hard decision to leave her I bet, but your life can't and shouldn't revolve around her. By marrying someone she doesn't approve of doesn't mean you don't love her anymore. She is going to have to deal with the fact that your a grown woman and can make decisions for yourself.
Your life is yours, but you cant always see the other side of the hill clearly, while others can.
2006-06-22 17:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your parents think that you are too young to get married perhaps your father doesn't trust him fathers are usually very protective of there daughters. Just ask if you can sit down with him and your parents and talk about it
2006-06-23 09:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOSH, I FEEL FOR U. THIS KIND OF OPPRESSION OF WOMEN IN OTHER COUNTRIES DISTURBS ME. IM IN THE USA. AND I CAN'T TELL YOU WHAT TO DO. CAN YOU RUN AWAY? COULD YOU SUPPORT YOURSELF? FROM OTHER IM BUDDIES, INDIA IS A HARD COUNTRY FOR A GIRL TO MAKE IT ON HER OWN. IF YOU CAN'T DO THESE THINGS, THEN IF YOU MARRY, YOU TELL THE MAN YOUR SECRET AND THEN MAYBE YOU WON'T HAVE TO GET TO THE ALTAR. IF THAT MAN KNOWS YOU DESIRE ANOTHER, HE MAY NOT WANT YOU AT ALL. THEN YOU CAN HAVE MORE TIME TO FIGURE THINGS OUT OR RUN AWAY WITH YOUR TRUE LOVE.
2006-06-21 18:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your mutual faith, pray & ask God for a solution. Continue seeking Him. Read His Word. Have faith that He will provide an answer to this situation that will ultimately honor him.
"Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and then all these things shall be added unto you..."
2006-06-23 18:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by ckloepper90 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, what to do... they're the boss.. but at your age, it's legal for you to choose who do you want to marry, but I guess they know what's best for you.. if you really love him, try to compromise... ur mom is sick and i guess marrying him can wait. if he really loves you and he's sincere when it comes with his true feelings for you, he'll wait for you until everything is okay between ur parents and help you with your problems and stick w/ u until the end...
2006-06-23 19:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by babymine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're at the right age. you can marry him without your mother's consent...i guess you really need to talk things out with your mom...tell her everything...if she still insist then...
2006-06-23 14:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by marikit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no suggestion but anyways good luck!!
2006-06-09 19:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by st me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marrey him without your mothers approval its your life not theirs
2006-06-22 08:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋