guide me in the right direction...?

Question

I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 17 and have been dating for 3 weeks. We plan on dating for a very long time. We have been talking about sex lately, but we're both virgins still. He says he wants to do it, but doesn't want to till I want to and he will wait till i'm ready. Do any of you have any advice for when a good time to do it is? When should I tell him that i'm ready? I'm just scared about the whole pregnancy thing, my parents finding out, ect.

Answer 1

well, i am glad that your boyfriend isn't pushing you to, that's great.
But to tell you the truth, you will the right time, it isn't something anyone but you can tell yourself. you'll just know when your ready.

I may sound like a loser to the rest of you but i didn't have sex until i was 18 and very much in love, and i have never regreted it since. but if you do choose to have sex plz make sure you use a condom, and even talk to your doctor about birth control ( cause if you have it one you may not want to stop). I know your parents may not approve ( besides parents usally would like that kids to be 40 before they have sex) but if you go to them before hand and tell them that you want to be put on birth control, and be honest with them, then maybe they will be a little more excepting, and understanding that you are being responsible and that you know you are not ready to be a parent. But if you in anyway feel like this is something you don't want or are not ready for the plz i bag you not to do it. your first time should be a wonderful experience, something you will look back and remember fondly, and be happy knowing you'll never regret the choice you make.

Answer 2

Well first of all let me say this, you two are VERY VERY young. Just because you "plan" on dating for a very long time does NOT mean you will. I know 3 weeks sounds like a longtime at your age, but it's not. Something for you to really think about is this, when you make a decision in life, you can't hit replay and do it over again. Young girls in particular are so vulnerable to the attention that guys give them. I'm not saying he isn't a nice person, but what I am telling you is to put your own best interest first. I understand that he told you that he doesn't want to have sex until you are ready, but make sure that IF you decide to do this, that you aren't doing it just to keep him. Also, I know young people will do what they want when no one is around so if that should happen, please use common sense and use protection. A condom as I'm sure you have heard, is not only a form of birth control, but diseases. How do you know he is a virgin? Because he told you so? When thinking about being intimate with someone, believe only yourself. Too many pregnancies and diseases are out there because someone believed what the other person said. And if you have to ask when it's a good time to do it, then it's not.

Answer 3

hold out till your ready, you have got your entire life ahead of you do you want to be tied down with a kid at 15? your life would be over and most likely would be over with him to, you got the kid not him atleast in his mind.. just keep saying no, if he truely cares and loves you he will wait till the time is right..live your life right now, put the sex part on hold till you and him are much older and more responsible, babys are born each and everyday to very young mothers who arent ready and cant accept the responsibility...then the babys suffer not the parents...make him wait.

Answer 4

well ashley i pity on u , becoz ur still innocent small girl. i am 25yrs old and i have had enough experience. love him it is not wrong at all as all have attractions towards opposite sex, but listen to me, never have sex unless u get married to him, becoz if u have sex and if he does not marry u, u will feel guilt all ur life life time for having sex in a wrong time with a wrong person. as i am feeling guilt for what i did 6yrs back. think calmy and take steps. he is good he has given time, but never make hurry. doing wrong thing in dark without commitment is a sin and god watches even tough u hide from ur loving parents. become mature completely and a good time will surely come when u both can share love feelings, u have to just wait for it sweet heart. take care

Answer 5

If you've only been dating for 3 weeks you really should wait. Be sure that he's the right one for you. You don't want to rush it. Take your time. Maybe let the connection between become stronger, so that way when you do finally decide to take that next step it'll be special. Only YOU can decide when the time is right.

Answer 6

MY DEAR, YOU ARE ONLY15 WHY DON,T YOU TAKE THAT ENERGY AND START PLANNING ON HOW YOU ARE GOING TO SAVE UP FOR COLLEGE OR DO SOMETHING ELSE OTHER THAN THINKING ABOUT HAVING SEX. AND IF YOUR BOYFRIEND REALLY LOVE YOU THEN TELL HIM TO MARRY YOU FIRST AND PROVIDE YOU TWO A PLACE OF YOUR OWN.IF HE SAYS HE CAN,T THEN YOU WILL KNOW YOU,VE MADE THE RIGHT DECISION TO KEEP YOUR INNOCENCE UNTIL YOU ARE OF AGE AND KNOW WHAT LOVE TRULY IS BECAUSE LOVE DON,T COME FROM THE YOU KNOW WHERE.

Answer 7

First off if your questioning it your not READY and also you have to think about your future: Like finishing school before you get in that kind of situation!

Answer 8

i know it prolly sounds like a death wish but discuss openly with your parents that you are deciding whether you want to have sex....if they argue just tell them that you wanted to come to them for help and if they aren't going to help that they can't control your actions....your choice and your decision.... talk it over with you b/f... are you comfortable? that is a question only you can answer.... i would wait...you have your whole life... when in doubt...don't do it!

Answer 9

Wait till you're married. You will not regret it. You are WAY too young to be concerned with this.

Answer 10

wait for marriage

You deserve love and devotion to share with someone in a safe family environment and in a good marriage you wont have to worry about getting pregnant or STD's

Good Luck and God Bless!!