how do you get over a man ?

Question

i've been with this guy on and off for six years, a really rocky relationship. we have a son together but he only half way pays child support. he only wants to come see his son when he's drunk and he starts feeling sorry for himself. at first he tried to deny our son so i set up a dna test for which he did not even show up. i am taking him to court for child support. he plays head games with me, and always promises to do better. i am at my wits end and need some serious advice. his sob story is that he loves me but i dont understand what's going on in his life. he really puts on a front too, with all the crying and self pity. i do love him and want him to do better but i just don't think i can take any more of the lies. so any suggestions on how to move on?

Answer 1

Ever hear the saying love isn't always enough? You'll probably always love him if he is the father of your child especially. But he's not good for you! I guess the best way to get over him, is to have a lot of support from family and friends. If you choose to end this relationship for good. Keep yourself busy, don't even jump into another relationship, after 6 years you'll definitely need some time to heel. Then when you're ready, and you'll know when, you'll find someone else. But don't ever regret being with him. You've learned from him, and I'm sure there have been a lot of good times. Otherwise you'd wouldn't have stay with him this long. Having a child with him makes it a little harder, but hopefully he'll be in your childs life. But only if he changes some of his habits. You're child should always come first. That's another reason to definitely move on!! He needs to straighten up before he can be a part of your childs life. Good Luck!!!!

Answer 2

As a man I say the best way to get over your ex is another man. One of two things will happen. One--he will realize that he has competition and get his act together. A child plays a major role in this type of situation and usually the father will feel threatened by another man's presence or Two---he will see this as a final chapter in the book that you two have created and move on. Hopefully he will continue to be a part of your child's life but if not, don't spend forever trying to get over this guy. There are plenty of men who accept women with children and would be more than happy to take you and your child under their wing.

Answer 3

You've got to get away from the games that he plays.

The answer isn't to create a scene and a fight but to refuse to play the games he sucks you into.

Read "Games People Play" by Eric Berne. Pay attention to the games that you LAUGH AT, 'cuz those are your own games, and that's how he manipulates you!

It's obvious that he's quite satisfied by the way the situation is right now as it stands.

Answer 4

look he needs to grow up, if he is only coming over when he is drunk that is wrong. but they say when a man is drunk his real feelings come out. i wouldn't let him come over drunk. i don't no Good Luck. i would let him see his son. you need sometime i wouldn't tell u to go and find someone right now 6 years is along time and u have a son together. just tell him to come at a decent time and not drunk. anyways good luck Hun. i hope it gets better for u or his dad grows up

Answer 5

With five others honey. Get moving

Answer 6

If you dont move on you will be alone anyway................This guy is not going to be around for you ....................He doesnt even like himself..................................and you dont like yourself or you would move on...............You can get another guy..........not matter what you think ........you can do it.............