I have asked same question over a period of 4 days without one response. if your marriege of 7 years was on rocks with the main issue of problems being a step parent woulnt you have anger issues. you try surfing the web for answers. how upset would you be. how would you tell your step kids that you have been there for most of their lives that they will never see me again. the oldest is 8.5? maybe people should get off their high horse. see my answers reflect that not a single dead **** cares and yet you can get on this site and talk about getting it on with kids. wheres the real life story in that
2006-06-09 18:10:48 · 12 answers · asked by azimuth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi, i m with u in ur difficult time. Just love ur kids b'coz u want to prove urself as a real mom. and if u want u can. U just love , love, love........... them.
hug them , kiss them ........ If they cannot forget real mom, so just try to know, what they really like in their mom. And still they aren't just tell ur mom is not here and she cannot so just accept the situation & I will be ur real mom.
God bless u,
Pinki (India)
2006-06-09 18:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Pinki 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes there will be anger issues because its bad enough that enough that the step parent and step child have to find a way get along but that the other parent has to actually let the step parent be a parent, and that is hard when all its been is ur kids and u (i think that makles sense). I had a step father for about 13 yrs of my life (5-18). I did not like him because he was not my dad and i felt i didnt have to do anything he said. he didnt care for me cuz i wasn't "his child" but felt he can order me around just the same. Its hard for step families....but i think a family counselor is in order. They will b non-bias and can listen to each side and find out the real issue. The step-parent thing may be covering something even deeper.
Hope that helps in some way
2006-06-10 01:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by summerain2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello there,first lets dael with the maine issue?7 years you say nad a step parent?Anger issues?Well,if you both are getting to the point of not being together no longer step kids involved?the whole nine yards?the oldest i would sit down when alone and let him know the situation hopeing he will understand also,there are other ways that can go about you and the father sit and come to an agreement,so you can be apart of their life!yes there are anger issues involved on most,your part,girl,don,t fret1God will find away i will you well for what ever your decition may be between you to,sorry for the kids,but you will find away,to stay in touch,and knowing they won,t forget you trust,be patient.
2006-06-10 01:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by sheena s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than accept free advice on Yahoo Answers (unfortunately free advice is usually worth no more than you paid--nothing!), try yahoo groups and talk to others that are facing or have dealt with the same issues that you face.
Try Yahoo Groups and then go to "Family & Home > Parenting > Step Parents"
Good luck and best wishes,as I know that this will be, at best , a difficult and emotional issue to deal with.
2006-06-10 01:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by old dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having some trouble reading your question...
I'm guessing that you're upset that your marriage is nearing divorce and you're worried you won't have any access to your step children?
I'm not a lawyer, but I think I may have read somewhere that a parent (and even a step parent) can apply for shared custody of children during a seperation. I've heard of step parents and common-law couples being sued for child support, so why not?
Hope this helps...
2006-06-10 01:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by chia_vampire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its terrible that nobody has answered your question and i dont know why they didnt. That sounds like a really tough thing! If you need help talk to a phyciatrist. If you love your stepkids that would put you in a hard situation if you wont be able to see them again! Isnt there something to where you can have visiting rights? I hope everything works out okay with you and good luck!
2006-06-10 01:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. Sorry you are in pain and going through this tough time. I know being a step parent is really tough. Please remember they are just kids and their loyalties are torn. They don't want to "betray" their Mom by liking you. You just have to be the grown up here and love them love them love them love them out of this. And, ALWAYS speak respectfully of their Mother even if she is a loser. Most of all, go get some counseling and support. You can do it! Big huge hugs to you. Remember, you *can* love them out of this. The payoff will be huge.
2006-06-10 01:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Ginger Sling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a professional counselor. You cannot realistically expect to get this kind of emotional help on a website... especially THIS train wreck. Most of the people on here are under 16.
2006-06-10 01:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant realy tell them that because if i were them i know it would heart a lot hearing that and i am sorry that no one has helped you but please dont do that to the poor kids because that would heart so bad and they would probably waist a lot of there life trying to find you instead of moving on and doing what they have always wanted to do i hope this helps sorry that no one gave you any answers.
2006-06-10 01:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by billy_rules16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok , this was the first I have seen your question, i believe you have legal rights regarding your step children , so why would you not see them again, I would suggest calling the legal aid society
2006-06-10 01:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by leo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋