To the ladies is it bad if you don't know when you are going to orgasm?

Question

I would like to know i'm 19 and my boyfriend says i have done it but i don't know when and that is puzzling me. Should i feel embarass?

Answer 1

If you have to ask you have not had one yet. You will Know!

Answer 2

sweetheart you would know if you had had one or not. your boyfriend is a little to sure of his skills and doesn't know what he is talking about. he may just feel your vagina contract, but that doesn't mean you are climaxing. i will try and explain how it feels. oh, boy here goes. first you become aware of a building feeling down there and your body will kind of know in which ways to move to keep it building. whatever your boyfriend is doing at the time you will not want him to change his rythm or movements in anyway to alter the building feeling, you may want to tell him, "don't stop!". anyway, the building feeling seems to get closer and closer until you feel this intense wonderful release down there that seems to spread up through your vagina through your stomach to blosson in your chest. mmmmm! it is wonderful! your clitoris(sp?) will feel wonderfully extra sensitive for awhile afterwards too.
it can take quite awhile for most women to reach an orgasm and many men wont last or wait that long to get theres(selfish bastards) some women never experience an orgasm. it does take a considerate lover to take his time in foreplay and longer stimulation to help you achieve your climax before he reaches his. it is a mjor turn on for men, so i'm told, when their partner reaches a climax during sex. do not feel bad or allow anyone to blame you or tell you you are not normal in anyway about not reaching a climax. you are so young. most women are not going to experience an orgasm from a 30 second knookie session, or even a longer session. it takes time, relaxation and skill and patience on both your parts. if you are nervous and uptight and expectant you are more than likely not going to experience a thing except frustration. many women dont always climax during intercourse, but they may through the use of other techniques used by her man if you know what i mean? i hope you do cause i don't know how to spell the proper term for it and i dont like to use the slang( okay, fine, head, 69...etc..that's as slang as i can get) you might also use your own hand down between your bodies you help stimulate yourself during intercourse.my husband loves when i do that. (be careful if you have long natural nails, you dont want to slash your boyfiends best little buddy) good lord i cant believe i'm telling you all this. i just want you to experience a little of what your boyfriend is experiencing using your body. just slow down and be patient, maybe he isn't "the one". tell your boyfriend slow and steady wins the race! hope i've been of some help.

Answer 3

Believe me, you'd know. Have your boyfriend play with your clitoris during sex. You on top is the easiest. Lean back a little & you won't be asking these kind of questions anymore !!!!!!!!

Answer 4

no not at all!!! you shouldn't be embarassed! but if you don't think you have had an orgasm you probably haven't...i agree with her up there! :P

Answer 5

No.do u feel like u wanna pee at the time?

Answer 6

he's just saying sh*t, maybe to boost his esteem. you know how guys are--b/c if you have had one, you will know. so if you are here asking this question, then NO you definitely have not had one dispite what he tells you.

Answer 7

U would know if u had one.

Answer 8

you will feel your muscles down there contract or squeeze

Answer 9

Trust me - you would know!

Answer 10

You will know,