lets say ur parents feel dis particular girl is good 4 u,n even when u meet her u like her, coz shes very talented,mature,a nice person with a very cool attitude,n even u want 2 marry her,then she tells u smething abt her painful past,that shes not a virgin coz she was raped,n since then shes lost all the respect 4 men,n now shes agreed 4 marriage coz of family pressure.would u still go ahead n marry her?will it b out of sympathy?r u sure shell fall in love?rember shes a grt gal,guys answer honeslty with a reason y or y will u not marry her,best and an honest answer wins 10 points.
2006-06-09 17:49:58 · 14 answers · asked by hs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would also like 2 know wt would u guys do,ok she needs help etc...bt wt would u do?
2006-06-09 18:01:32 · update #1
marry her or no
2006-06-09 18:02:29 · update #2
well i married such a person,the only difference was.we were under no pressure by our families.for the first two years.i was more like a therapist than a boy friend,day by day she became more comfortable with me,till it reached a point where she was totally attached,by the end she got separated,and she doesn't know why....she enjoyed hurting me like a man rather than loving me like a husband,so the answer to your question is,,,
it is a fact that it really depends on the man,that how understanding he would be.but if the man does everything right,at the end depends on girl.whether she wants to let go of past and move on.or live in the past and hurt every man as an intruder,if she doesn't want to let go of the past.they will never get any where,I'm talking of a personal experience,good question hs.
2006-06-11 01:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by montra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude for me I will still accept her marry her and love her. It was not her fault that she was raped. I will try to give her comfort and security. Ofcourse you must also show her respect. Having a person talented and have a great personality will make a great famility. Her past wont affect our future. What belongs to the past must remain in the past, what is important is the future that you will both enjoy.
2006-06-10 00:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by hollywoodjack111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless she was willing to get some serious help. She is not going to be happy in bed if she has not gotten past the rape. Sounds like she needs a lot of help to me. Unless you are willing to have a very cold marriage.
2006-06-10 00:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...is 'virginity' the question here?ok, you said she's smart.talk to her.have a heart to heart talk about you both getting married.just say simply to her that 'this' marriage is not just like putting in your mouth a hot choco that when you get burnt you'll just spit!then she'll despise men again!if you think she's that smart & you really love her, she'll learn through the days with you that not all men are the same.you'll just have to be patient on her because of her painful past.try to understand her.
2006-06-10 02:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cant help what happened to her in the past ok. if you truley love this girl marry her me myself i would not even think of it for one moment if you both love each other marry her and never bring this up to her ok she has been living in hell over some sorry thing that took something from her . again do what is right ok marry her and treat her with respect god knows she has had one of a hell of a past ok so leave the past alone deal with the resent .
2006-06-10 01:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry anyone. Go back to school and learn to spell your, this,for,you,and,you're,because,to,about,be,are,remember,great,and girl. You might want to pick up some grammer as well.
You are not text messaging. The letters here are free so there is no need to slaughter the language
2006-06-10 01:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id sit down and have a heart-to-heart chat with her and tell her if she dont love me then give me the chance to earn that love before marriage. If in time she cant , then i would hit the bricks.
2006-06-10 00:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by RM802001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wuldnt bc somethin like tht would leave a scar for life. i no it sounds really mean but its true. no matter what she does, its gnna hang over her head. i mean i am a christian and i believe God can save her, but i doubt thts wat u wnt to hear. othr thn tht its gnna tke A LOT of work nd therapy to get her to feel safe nd secure with u. but if u luv her, u might b able to get her respect back for men by jst being there and being the best u can b for her. luv her nd she might come bck. its gnna get hard, but in the end it will b worth it if ur sucessful. good luck
2006-06-10 00:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by NY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely go down the counselling road but also make sure she can trust me 100% and help her to trust men also.We are not all bad some men are animals who we hate just as much as victims i would love her Cherish her and treat her like a lady should be treated..
2006-06-12 09:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by andy f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not one perfect person out there so really you need to ask yourself Do you or could you love her engouh to help change her mindset? True love conquers all you know.
2006-06-12 07:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by tapperlorraine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋