is it right to have another baby shower?

Question

I have a friend who just asked me if it was right to have a third baby shower. She has a five year old and a three year old. Which there is a time difference between the kids. She had two for the other ones, which I know alot of people do now a days when there's a space diffence or a different sex of the baby. She doesn't want to look greedy but she did get rid of everything because she wasn't planning on any more and even was on birth control but it still happened. Thank you

Answer 1

Sure it's alright. If people think she is being greedy the don't have to attend.

Answer 2

Why wouldn't it be alright? Just because it's her third baby doesn't mean the third baby isn't loved! The shower is to show support and love by those who care, and isn't that third baby loved just as much as the first?

If a person is to their third child, and have supplies, they might want to run the shower differently than they did with their first child or a child who has nothing.

I think it all comes down to the fact that showers aren't solely for gaining possesions; they are also an opportunity for friends and family to show the mother-to-be how much they love her and how excited they are about the new addition to the family.

If she feels guilty about a third shower, don't call it a shower. I can be like a luncheon celebrating the birth of a new baby. People may or may not bring gifts.

Answer 3

My personal opinion is you should only have one. I think the only time it would be o.k. to have another shower is if you had a child in your early twenties thought you were done and twenty years later had a change of life pregnancy. What woman wouldn't love multiple showers but imagine if everyone had a shower for every kid they had? It would be in poor taste. She may have been on the pill and gave everything away but that was a choice she made it doesn't mean that now it is others responsibility to get her back everything she gave away. If she wanted to have a shower just for the purpose of celebrating the up coming birth of her child that would be fine. If she doesn't want to seem greedy then she shouldn't expect gifts.

Answer 4

No, one baby shower is enough. If someone is expecting twins, it may be okay. Her first two kids were only two years apart, she should have had everything from the first baby for the 2nd baby instead of having a second shower.

Have a thrird shower when the other child is three is not right. Everybody who you would invite to the shower have already bought her gifts for 2 baby showers, so why ask them to buy her a third gift? It just does not seem right in my mind.

Answer 5

I've heard that women get one baby shower...with the first baby. The only time they should have a second one is if their other kids are grown up and they suddenly become pregnant at a later age (50 year old woman has two grown adult children in their early 20s, and oops...now she's pregnant). As for asking for a third one...that seems sort of selfish to me.

Answer 6

i've attended a lot of 2nd and 3rd baby showers. personally, i think it is embarrassing. i had my first kid and pregnant with my second. sure they are almost 3 years apart, plus different sex, different time of year etc etc. but i wouldn't want a second shower. the way i see it, people are going to get me stuff for my second child anyways regardless of whether i have a shower or not. and those who would only purchase a gift for a shower, well i don't want their gift. b/c these people tend to be the ones your not close to. also, i got rid of a lot of baby gear as well. All i kept was the car seat. Also another point: don't you learn after having the first kid--all that baby crap out there is exactly that CRAP. all the things you really need can be purchased using the same amount of money a shower cost to throw. unless of course she wants POLO or Tommy for the kid ONLY. i don't really care if other people have 2nd/3rd/4th/5th showers, I just personally don't want one. but if your friend wants one, then ok. If you want to throw it, throw it.

Answer 7

I think its fine since there was such a big gap. There has been a lot of changes in just 3 years, and things are safer and more convenient. My babies are only 14 months apart, so I didn't have a shower with my 2nd even though my first was a boy and my 2nd was a girl. I had all of the necessities, and most people brought goodies, like outfits, when she was born.

Answer 8

My personal opinion is that one shower and your done................................................... unless the age difference is 10 or more years or have gotten remarried after a divorce or loss of spouse. I don't understand the people who have a shower with the 2nd child and I do feel like they are being greedy. If you got rid of your things get them back or shop at thrift stores. I guess if someone wants to throw you a shower let them but if it's your idea it just feels tacky to me.

but hey no one knows your friends and family better than you and maybe they expect you to have another shower and that fine.

Answer 9

a baby shower is a celebration welcoming the birth of a new baby. It doesn't matter how many kids there are. I know people who have had more than one baby shower per baby. They are usually done by freinds and families. If someone was to throw me a baby shower i wouldn't say no.

Answer 10

It's ok. I had a shower for all 3 of mine. 7, 3, 7 months. I'd get rid of everything & then my husband would agree to another child. It would be different if the kids were stairstepped. (really close together)

Answer 11

I am in the same situation...trying to figure out if I should have another baby shower. I had a baby 4 yrs. ago and I am 6 mo. pregnant. My boyfriend said that your not supposed to have anymore after your first child, but we don't have anything for infants, so it would really help us out....Anyways, I think your friend should have another one if she doesn't have the right stuff for infants-it's only logical.