My husband and I have a different set of friends. I go and do stuff w/ his friends, but he is hesitant to do alot with mine. He wants us to both just go and do what we want with each of our friends and be together when we are not. I am afraid we will start to grow apart after a while. Is anyone else in this situation?
2006-06-09 16:58:56 · 20 answers · asked by ms06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am in the same situation as you. We have different friends and it IS starting to make us grow apart. He always wants me to hang out with his friends but he never wants to mine. We have both been talking about it and trying to figure out what to do. Talking to him has helped us alot. Have you tried talking to him yet? I really dont know what else to tell you. I wish you all the luck. If you ever need someone to talk to just email me, k? Honestly. I know exactly how you feel.
2006-06-09 17:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by domestic?goddess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no my husband and i do not share the same group of friends. my husband does not go any where with his friends and barley talks to them on the phone. if ur friends are majority women and his are majority men it is good that you two see your friends apart. the last thing u need are people budding into your marriage. u two should not grow apart from spending a little time apart. it is healthy to have your time away from each other once in a while. just as long as the "going out" is kept to a minimum and not an every day thing. enjoy your breath of fresh air and esablish more confidence in the marriage other then thinking time apart will enentually lead to the down fall of your marriage. good luck
2006-06-09 17:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys could try to throw a party to mix your friends up a little? If you go out and do things with his friends he should be open to spending time with yours.
It may not make either of you grow apart if he doesn't want to share both sets of friends. It may bring you closer to have your own independent life and a great married life together.
2006-06-09 17:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I don't do anything together. We have been married for over 30 years. I have my family and a few good friends; he has his. I often wish we did do things together, but I am an only child and I really don't mind being alone. We even take separate vacations and have for years, even when our kids were growing up. I would take my parents and our 3 children; he would go fishing/hunting/
2006-06-09 17:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my hubby have the same problem! We have no friends in common. I have even tried to be friends with his friends wives so we could all go out together but they all are a lot older then me. All of my hubby's friends are almost old enough to be my dad he is only 3 yrs older then me. Most of my friends don't like my hubby and he only likes one of them. I t makes things hard for us but we have started to make friends that we have met from things that we do now and have kids about the same age as our kids. Its working out pretty good so far. i also now a lot of people that are going through the same thing and some times its a good thing cause you always have some one to call to gripe about him and it wont get back to him.
2006-06-10 11:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I hang out with all the same people. We share the majority of our interests so it is a no brainer. We do a lot with couples and family that are the same age and have the same interests.
In fact neither of us have any friends that are not friends with the other person.
Not that I think it is bad that you have seperate friends, hey whatever works for you guys. Go nuts.
2006-06-09 17:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Snap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bad thing to have different friends. My husband and me have mutual friends and friends of our own acquaintance. The friends that I have that he is not friends with share interests with me that me and my hubby don't share.
You make time to be together. You have to put the effort into your own relationship. If he doesn't want to spend time with you then that is a problem.
You can juggle both.
2006-06-09 17:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Lynnsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really comprehend my husband's password and that i do not imagine he recollects he gave it to me years in the past. Do I examine his e-mail? each and every once in a lengthy time period. I have stuck him in lies, not dishonest, yet nonetheless, issues which have made me believe him a lot less. To me checking his e-mail is the most secure thanks to ensure issues (or doing a heritage on our pc) because i comprehend that till I have reliable evidence of a few thing he will deny it. If I examine his e-mail each and every once in a lengthy time period it satisfies my prefer to carry close if he's hiding some thing and he would not prefer to carry close that I nonetheless have some believe subject matters with him, a minimum of not each and each and every of the time. As for it being antagonistic to the privateness regulation....it truly is not.
2016-11-14 10:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I have way diffrent taste when it comes to who we are friends with. I guess that's one of the things I love about him the most, he is who he is and even though I am nothing like his friends he still loves me just the way I am.
As for the question, cross that bridge when you get to it. Try it his way and if it doesn't work then talk about it as long as you are communicating you should be OK. Good Luck.
2006-06-09 17:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have our own group of friends and we have a shared group of friends. We spend "alone" time with our individual groups of friends but find that we actually prefer our time out with our shared friends more. Probably because we're best of friends so we like to spend the time together.
2006-06-09 17:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋