my mother in law is trying to teach my baby that she is her mom and it's pissing me off. me and her already don't get along. should i say something? she gets mad when i ask her to call herself grandma. am i wrong or her?i think she is just mad she had a boy(my hubby) and not a girl.HELP
2006-06-09 16:57:42 · 16 answers · asked by jojo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all.....babies know their mother's voice and smell (just like all animals) long before they are born! Second of all your MIL needs to back off and you need to distance yourself and child from her. Normally I would not say this as I am a grandmother myself. But I know MY place and I know it is not Mother. What does your husband think about his mother doing this???? He should be putting his own mother in her place and not let her get by with this. Your baby is in your care most of the time..... right? If so.... don't worry.... the baby will know the truth and you will not lose your child to your mother in-law.
2006-06-09 17:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much time your baby spends with your mother in law at an early age.
The baby knows it's mother at birth by her smell, heartbeat and voice...but if the baby is learning to talk they will learn what they are taught, and you are right in telling her how you feel!
And if she doesn't like it...stop letting her be around the baby for long periods of time.
Maybe she doesn't feel like a grandma, and if she doesn't want to be called grandma, then make up a pet name....I always called my grandma...memaw and papaw...and it stuck through the years to this day.
2006-06-09 17:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby's "lock" on their mother right away by smell and tone of voice. The recognize their mother's face in a matter of weeks by staring at it.
Don't worry, the vain granny isn't going to be able to outdo you. But a woman like that is a fantastic argument for staying single and childless, I must say. Have you and your husband considered moving at least 50 miles away from this vampire?!
2006-06-09 17:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies know the scent, feel and voice of their mother. Actually they have seperation aniexty if not within so many feet of the mother while awake. They know who there mother is...and they know you as the care giver. But if you mother in law is the one spending all the time with the child then yes your child could get confused...especially if the grand mother is saying that the baby is hers.
2006-06-09 17:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by Cole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think naturally a child can tell the difference between you, its parent (who is the figure who would spend more time with the child) and her, the grandparent. My sister's child loved spending time with me (my mother said it was because I reminded him of her since we look alike), but the moment my sister came home, he really wanted to spend time with her. So even at a young age they have a preference. Things like smells are different and they can distinguish. I agree that you might want to have her spend less time with the child... or speak to your husband, and tell him your concerns. Explain you are a new mom and sensitive to this issue! My mother does not like being called grandma by the kids, so she requested we call her Nana... and all the kids have followed our lead. Good luck!
2006-06-09 17:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by oh, yes! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, the baby actually knows your voice! If the dad was around during the pregnancy, than the baby will know his voice too. What is up with that woman!? Why is she trying to teach the baby to call her mom? Put her in check!
2006-06-09 17:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have an obsession with being who you are.
Your mother-in-law is only trying to keep the child happy.
You don't want an unhappy child - do you?
The child is too young to realise you at the moment, what your mother-in-law is doing is attempting to teach your baby to say mum; she is gran mum!!!
2006-06-09 17:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Baby will know you as the primary care giver as well as those months of pregnancy your heart beat & voice was what she heard the most... But I would be a little upset as well. reinrate Grandma.. like say hello to GRANDMA... mommy's going to give you to your grandma
2006-06-09 17:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some think that baby's know the sound of your voice because you carried them and thats all they know. your voice may be familiar to them i don't think he nows your his mother. your not in anyway wrong she is and if i were you i would say something and if your husband says anything ask him if he would like someone else telling his baby that there the daddy.
2006-06-09 17:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by tinyfrog20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother inlaw that she has to accept the fact that she is a grandmother & you will not tolerate her trying to take your place.
2006-06-09 17:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋