Every single weekend she goes without me as my job requires me to stay home (I'm an emergency response person) Anyways at first it was ok but now its getting old. I feel its breaking us apart and she doesnt seem to care that I would like her to stay home with me and if she wanted to go out we could go out on Wednesday which is my allowed day to go out, (she can go out any night) But to add a twist shes confessed to guys coming up and kissing her at the bar????? She says she dances with other guys???? now I think it takes 2 to make a kiss, I'm going insane when shes gone and don't know how much longer I can handle her new lifestyle. What do I do? AM I at fault for not likeing what shes doing, We've been together 5 years this last 6 months of ths bar crap is breaking us apart and she doesnt care I dont think she says I'm being to controlling???? WHAT???
2006-06-09 16:48:51 · 19 answers · asked by gyva02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry that last part should read she thinks I'm being to controling.
2006-06-09 16:50:47 · update #1
I'm going to let her read your answers write something to her!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-09 16:53:44 · update #2
I know it is going to be tough! But you have to make a decision!
You want to be miserable at home while she is having a good time?
No, of course not. So you go out Wednesday night, not to the same bar,
maybe out of town, and find yourself a nice woman who will
care and share for and with you. Let the other one go.
Only more trouble and heart-ache.
Wish you lots of luck and much love and happiness!
2006-06-09 17:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she doesn't want a couch potato she wants someone who gets out and is active. My friend was an emergency responder she just had to stay in the town not the home like a prisoner they had beepers. I think your making an excuse not to go out I am sure your town has bars and parks.
2006-06-09 23:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of thing happened to my fiancee in his past, she was cheating on him he found out. Uhm talk about it with her (if it was me, i wouldnt give her a chance at all) but if you think it will help, but you deserve way better man. Don't settle for someone even after five years who doesn't want to spend time or at least ask you to come along and hang out. That is totally disrespectful and obviously not loyal; if my bf or future husband did that, i would be out of there! There are so many girls out there who wouldn't want that either.
2006-06-09 23:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly what my ex did to me. I hate to tell you this but it is definetely not good. She is looking to get out and when she finds the right replacement for you she'll be gone. Sorry man but you should move on unless you're a very forgiving person.
2006-06-09 23:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by James W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if i were you, i would dedicate more time with her. It seems you dont go out much with her. Try giving some roses or candy or some kind of present. Try to dedicate that time you get out with her to talk about that. You may work it out. `cause dang, 5 years would be sad to end just like that...
2006-06-09 23:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by xtorbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dude if thats how it was when you guys first got together you really can't do anything but wait it out. I don't know your girl but sooner or later the bar scene will get old.
2006-06-09 23:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by clemh2o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with her, if you are a couple, she needs to consider your feelings too and she is selfish. find another girl there's plenty more where she came from.
just give her an ultimatum, you'll know where her true feelings are, just be prepared for an answer you dont like, and be ready to move on.
2006-06-09 23:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not, you want her to be faithful to you. What should tell you what is happening are your own words stating " she doesn't care" that says it all.
If she does read this, no one here has a vested interest in you or her, so these are very honest opinions about what her behavior means, Best of Luck to you!
2006-06-09 23:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by magpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being controlling, she is being a whore. Get on with your life without this girl. Is it really worth it? Wouldn't you rather have someone who cares about you?
2006-06-09 23:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First hand experience........been there done that, if you feel she really loves you, let her go and enjoy...trust is very important. I know been up that street 30 yrs ago, but we are still together, have to trust...good luck
2006-06-09 23:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋