i got pregnant when i was 18, had her when i was 19. ive been with my fiance>her daddy for almost 3 years now. we have our own place-living together for two years.our daughter is 15 months . we recently started trying to have another baby.im only 20 soon to be 21. i can afford another baby but are we crazy to want another one soo soon????i need tips
2006-06-09 16:46:57 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You're not crazy. If you and your fiance are ready for a baby and really want one, then you should go for it.
2006-06-09 16:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by eMiLY 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you aren't crazy. You have your children when you feel ready for them and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. I think it's a nice gap that you will have if you conceive some time soon. I had 3 children before I was 22 (one at 16 and twins at 21) and there is a 5 year gap between them. To be honest I think the 5 year gap sometimes is a little too much, because my older child feels like a singleton as the twins can't play some of the things he likes to play. He feels lonely.
You go for it if that's what you want, the gap would be great, not too much and not too little.
2006-06-09 21:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your crazy to think you can have a stable, commited family when all your doing is living with your guy. You need to be married. Your kids will follow your foot steps if your not careful. Just look at some of the questions that others are posting. Oh, and yes, I wouldn't try for another kid yet in response to your age i'm 24 and glad I'm just now getting prego again.
2006-06-09 16:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by emerys4christ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not! if u can afford it and u wanna do it and he does too, more power to ya. I believe in the whole marriage thing but hey to each his own. Having kids this close together can be really good and really bad. they'll develop a strong bond, which can mean best friends AND worst fights. However your little one right now might not understand why you cant pick her up in a few months, kids are smart I'd ask the kid. if she knows the difference between yes and no there you go. the little one you have right now should be priority though, dont jump the gun
2006-06-09 16:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a bad amount of time between babies if you do - by the time you have the second, the first will be about 2. As for waiting for the "perfect time" to have a baby, it'll never happen - there's always and excuse why it's better to wait. If you guys really want another baby, go for it.
2006-06-09 20:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not crazy and you may be able to afford it but are you ready in your life for another being that you will have her when you are 21 what are your b-day plans? I was pregnant on my 21 b-day and i had no fun i was to far along to do anything but sit at home. also are you where you want to be in your career? haveing a baby can put that on hold and where you may have just started it will set you back. so you need to think if you are ready in your life.
2006-06-09 17:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by KRAZYKOOLKATZ05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why do you want and other baby, to make your husband happy or your self happy? just remember you are just starting to -play house and let me tell you is no picnic i say this from experience my s girl is 13 now and I'm 32 life has been a ***** , trying to make it , life should be enjoyed to the fullest and .we as parents have a responsibility to ensure that our kids have a good future do you have the financial stability and education to give then a good future and you set setting your children to always poor b/c you could afford to help them get a better future, sorry if what I'm says sounds horrible but we can not be selfish and just think in what makes us happy we also have to realize that in your hands is the well being a human ,
2006-06-09 16:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by las olas fl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you are crazy, but if you are asking this then maybe you just aren't emotionally ready to have another baby. i am 22 going on 23 and i had a mc 2 years ago and now i cant have kids and yes i know that i can go to a doc but i cant because i don't have insurence however i want them and i have to say you are truly blessed to be able to have them but honey if you are doubting it then wait a year or two and then have another child.
good luck.
2006-06-09 17:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy. If you can afford to raise another child and you can provide all the necessities in life it needs, why not? The time frame between your daughter and possible new baby is great. Good luck!
2006-06-09 16:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by Tamnacious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your life so make it as happy as you can! If it feels right to you then you are not crazy. Crazy is if you have a baby and can not afford , had no father figure for her and got knocked up by some older man who you will also never see again.
2006-06-09 16:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not crazy i was in the same boat had my first at 16 and now im 22 and have 4 kids 3 boys and 1 gurl you just love the family thing... if you want more go for it
2006-06-09 16:48:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋