How do I get over a cheating wife?

Answer 1

You will have to learn to forgive and forget if you are staying with her.......

If you are done with her.......just get your head and heart straight.

Don't blame yourself, noone deserves to be cheated on if they have made a committment to each other.

It will take time....just like a cut....the heart takes TIME to heal....

Answer 2

Wives cheat their husbands for many possible reasons. The first thing that you should do is know the real reason for her doing that. Search your soul. Analyze yourself. Have you not done something wrong against her such as being infidel at one time or another? Have you satisfied her being your wife? Have you been a good husband? Have you shown her outwardly your love for her through little things even without occasions? Are you a good provider? These are questions which will let you discover if her reason for cheating on you is valid or not. If you really love her, tell her that you know about this and forgive her sincerely so that if she really loves you , your reconciliation is a great possiblity.

If you yourself don't love your wife anymore for what she does, separate ways with her. Have a graceful exit from your relationship. Say those words that will make her realize how wrong it is to be infidel. If she gives up her extra marital affair in your favor, that means she loves you more than the other man. If she does not, let her go. If you think you deserve someone better, move on. Someone out there more deserving of your love may be just around you, waiting for your eyes to set on hers.
Good luck!

Answer 3

I would recommend a box of tissue and some Ben and Jerry's Cherry Garcia but I don't know if it works as well for guys as it does for girls.

Now this is definitely easier said than done but don't beat your self up it, it's not your fault your wife cheated. Try getting together with your friends and have some fun, staying busy and getting out into the world will remind you of all the people you have yet to meet and before you know it the ex-wife will be a thing of the past. Oh and an occasional cry and bubble bath may be helpful as well, Good Luck.

Answer 4

rdhedhottie is right on the money...

As for the peeps that are trying to justify your wifes behavior by blaming you, FORGET IT! THAT IS WRONG! No one deserves to be cheated on. You know as well as I do that anyone and everyone could do things better in a relationship...I am sure you are beating yourself up over those things more than anyone knows (who hasnt been through it).

First thing man, no one is going to look down on you because your wife cheated. Lots of dudes think so...it is just not the case...anyone who looks down on the victim has serious mental issues. Hold your head high and be proud that you didnt break a marriage vow. Spend as much time with family and friends as possible. Talk about your feelings as much as possible. Try not to dwell on the pain though...that will be hard. Writing helps a great deal as well.

Are you going to divorce her? Are you trying to decide if you should or not? Depending upon your answers, I could go on further.

Most of all, don't fall in to the trap of blaming the other man. She is the one who owed you her fidelity. Blaming him will allow you to give her a pass on her actions. You don't want to do that. She is the one who knowingly hurt you, not him...no telling what kind of bs she filled him with. Whatever yo do, do not allow her to convince you that you were the reason she did this. Cheating is all about her being selfish. Realize that she now has to deal with the fact that she is "that kind of girl."...so she is going to do anything and everything in her mind to justify her behavior...blaming you, upsetting you, displacing her self anger on you, etc. will be her first line of defense.

Stay up playa!

Answer 5

Well if you truly love her, you should seek counseling, together. You both need to get to the core of the real problem. Her cheating is a mask for what really is going on, or not going on. When cheating happens, the most important element is lost, trust. You have to work at getting that back. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

First step is to understand that she cheated for her own short comings. It had nothing to do with you. She had to convince herself that you were a jerk and not worth her effort to get to the point that she could cheat on you. What an awful way to treat another person. Again, it wasn't you ... it was all about her.

Look at the guy in the mirror and list all of the great things about yourself. You probably haven't heard that in a while. She probably wasn't trying to hurt you ... but she was so screwed up that she did without trying. Feel sorry for her and respect yourself for standing firm.

You should try to meet a nice girl who values fidelity and honesty above all. Girls who cheat on their husbands are mixed up.

Answer 7

Think about have you ever wrong your wife or being inconsiderate. If you are honest, you answer is yes. All humans make mistakes.

Forgive her and give her another opportunity. It would be a lot easier if you have receive Jesus into your heart because in the Bible it says forgive others as God has forgive you. If you don't forgive her, you will carry a heavy burden like a cancer and it will turn your life upside down.

Answer 8

Unfortunately you won;t
men tend to form attachments with the women they love. this is what makes it more difficult for men who have affairs to leave the other woman.
your best bet is to understand what went wrong in the marriage and work on not making the same mistake twice.
Marrital counciling will certainly help. but even if you go by yourself, and file for seperation, and eventually follow thru with a divorce.
your going to be hurt one way or the other The big question revolves around trust.

My God Bless your family and offer guidance in your time of need.

Answer 9

date ur friends wife

Answer 10

Bang another woman, tell her about it and then give her the same B. S. excuse she gave you.