I feel that I was living this lie,but I still covered up this dirty little secret...got married,children the whole talmale pie..33yrs.of this lie.I'm not Happy.Starting Over is it too late?
2006-06-09 16:24:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The only time it's "too late" is moments after death, by suicide or otherwise. Til then ... play your cards as you see fit.
"A whole new identity" ... can you walk without touching the ground or floor? You will always be who you are. If you don't want to live a lie anymore, would you choose to live a fiction instead? Funny about self-delusion and such ... I can cause myself to forget something, but I can't quite get over the memory of having caused myself to huh huh huh ...
Why start over? Why not just, well, head in a different direction. Or heh chance the single thing that bothers you most that's changeable in minutes or hours ... even if that just means shifting the TV cuz you've always wanted it on the other wall of the room
Course you can't start over. "Born again? You mean I have to come out of my mother's belly again?" C'mon ... you know words can make sense. If it matters to you then you'll make the effort.
Recognize: even when you don't care, it still matters. Dig?
2006-06-09 17:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by hfx_ben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to start over. Every day is a new day to change. Why not start with telling your wife what happened when you were younger? Go and find a counselor or therapist or even your own minister. They are trained to help you through the emotional rollercoaster.
Why do you think you are living a lie? So you covered up a secret, you love your wife right? you love your kids? your love is true. Maybe you are not happy because you didn't work through the abuse and violation of your body. That is the part you have to work on. I know alot of people will say try forgiveness, but it's very hard to do that, you have to have gone through alot of work to be able to forgive someone who did awful things to you. But that's the first start, find a counselor and tell your wife. The hardest part is opening up and saying I'm a survivor of abuse. I think once you open up, you'll feel alot better about yourself and start being able to enjoy more things, and with work, at some point, you will feel happier.
2006-06-10 00:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tina of Lymphland.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have lows and highs in this life. I hope you have the time of your life. This is it, it's your life right here right now start living for the now. Peace
2006-06-09 23:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by chadman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some help. You shouldn't have to start over, you should come clean. You will feel much better.
2006-06-10 00:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Manrolls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a new life.A life where u will be happy and u will have no bad habit
2006-06-09 23:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by Cadpigfriend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u can do what u please its your life just think hard it will take alot of commitment put if it makes u happy do it u have a right to be happy
2006-06-16 21:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋