I found some e-mails of a conversation between my fiance and another woman. These e-mails contained the words "I Love You" and they also contained photos of himself. I confronted him about the e-mails and he told me that he was talking to this woman as a favor for a friend.
I have found several unknown numbers and text messages in his cell phone. He tells me these text messages, that have included things like, "why do you put me through this...why don't you get some from your g?" And he swears the text messages come from his sister.
He gets very defensive if I ask him about the text messages and he tells me that none of these things are my business...We are planning on getting married in a year...What should I do? Do you think these are definate signs that he is cheating?
2006-06-09 16:20:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he sent pictures of himself there is NO WAY he is doing for a friend.......leave if you really want to find out if he wants you, he'll come and find you.....if he doesn't he is finding someone else...like the email girl.........
It's hard, but.......it's just got to be done, if he's doing it and lying to you now....do you really want to marry this man!?!?
2006-06-09 16:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes from all the things you have written. I suggest you take a breather in the relationship and do some soul searching. Do you really want to marry a guy who continues to lie and hide things from you. Your not even married to him yet. SO I don't buy the friend story or the sister sending the text. I am sure his sisters name is just programmed under someone Else's number.
When a man jumps to his own defense, I suggest again to reevaluate the relationship and ? yourself if you want to marry someone with these characteristics?
2006-06-09 16:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is cheating ! I just had a mad wife message me about a jerk that was hitting on me before and he would not tell his wife what he was doing! What a jerk but i am so glad she knows now! I sure hope he tells her the truth! I know he is lying about where the text messages from and you definitley need to get to the bottom of this! I would not marry him if he is a cheater at all!
2006-06-09 16:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is CHEATING on you and you need to put a stop to that! If you don't now, later it will get worse and the lying will continue. You'll believe all his sorry lies and regret being with him because you're so unhappy. Leave him now when you're not married to him or you'll regret you'd marry him. I know from experience. Put your foot down and take control of the situation or he'll run you over like a worn rug.
2006-06-09 16:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Lily♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is. Probability of cheating. 99%. Probability of being a lousy choice for a lifemate at this point in time: 100%.
Probability of you dumping this jerk: 22%.
Higher if he has lied in the past to you. add 10% for every lie you have ever caught him in.
up to 8 lies...then it would be 100% probability you will dump the jerk and actually find somebody that appreciates you for you, and not some phantom girl.
That could actually be a cop...waiting to bait him.
everyone sing:
Bad boys, bad boys...whatch going to do when they come for you?"
Next thing he will say is that he doesn't jerk off to internet porn!
2006-06-09 16:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definite signs of cheating:
When you are married, engaged, or dating........those things are your business. Sisters don't do that and he would not be defensive if it was from her. Men will often say it is a cousin, a sister, or a friends girlfriend playing a joke. He is feeding you a line in hopes that you will believe it.
Will you?
2006-06-09 21:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think those things would be a sign of cheating or wanting to. I wouldn't put up with it. I'd tell him he needs to stop or i'm leaving.
2006-06-09 16:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you to hire a Private Investigator to get photographic evidence.
2006-06-09 17:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by John Blaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You in seriuos trouble girl. but u must face it. it is better for u to clear the situation in early stage. it will be like cancer. better to to be hurt in this stage rather to have big trouble in future. good luck gurl.
2006-06-09 16:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by fathi a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and it's unlikely that he's going to change. Sorry, but I think you're making a mistake here. : ((
2006-06-09 16:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by fhornsr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋