solid evindence.All you had was she is a female at work that is kinda friendly towards him and then she was also the female he went to a park with to vent to ne day cause she was there when he was checking his schedule and then she just asked him how he was doing and then he just started pouring his heart out cause he needed to real bad cause he was mad.And you also knwo the only reason yoru husband didnt tell you is cause he knew you would totally freak and go off on his *** so he just kept it from you and of course i found out anther way.Even though i have no solid proof but my gut tells me different ,should i just leave it alone or go with my gut and just leave?
2006-06-09 16:13:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK i have talked to him and of course i did the best i could do but he still got very mad cause i confronted him more than once,but i had a reason before when we were just friends but trying to be together i had a feeling about this one girl and i would ask him and he would just tell me no that they were just friends,later on i found out that they were more than friends they were actually sleeping together.i mean we wer not together yet we were just seeing each other and this happen over 1 and half ago but he lied to be then so im not sure if he owuld do it again my gut says maybe something happen and then my h eart says he loves me way too much and that he was just really pissed and she was just willing to listen im just not sure i would just like some feed back on what people think
2006-06-09 16:23:23 · update #1
If it is purely friendship he would have no reason to hide it regardless of how freaked out you may get. I would keep a really close eye on him especially if your gut is churning about it. another thing you may want to consider is that if you are having a hard time trusting him and he's not coming to you with his stresses and problems, you two are having some serious communication problems. Your husband should be comfortable telling you anything and everything. He should also never hide and lie to you. you may want to consider counseling, Good Luck.
2006-06-09 16:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he was hiding it... there is a reason. People dont hide things that are good most of the time. So unless you b-day is around the corner and they are planning you a surprise party dont believe it. has this girl ever been to your house? if your hubby doesnt want you and her together then its bad news.. Have a small get together and invite her. Chum it up with her, if you get on her side she'll either feel guilty and confess or stop the affair immediately. See your mans reaction when you ask her over to your place. If he disapproves HES GUILTY! But maybe its nothing. you'll find out!
2006-06-09 23:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ghosts of the past are haunting you, and the gut feeling is the honest fact that when he betrayed you in the beginning, you have never dealt with the option of breaking it totally off with him, or allowing yourself to forgive him. I would normally say, gut feeling are usually more right than wrong. This time, after reading all your comments, I think honestly, you are dealing with a repressed feeling. Eventually when we close the door and don't take the time we need to work thru issues, we have to reopen that door and deal with what we closed out mentally. For a healthy relationship, try to trust him and when you talk to him about something you are feeling, at this point, believe him, and let "sleeping dogs lie." Don't waste your energy on assumptions, wait till you have cold concrete evidence. And guess what, you may never have to deal with this scenario in your relationship.
2006-06-09 23:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gut instincts can be right a majority of the time. But to be on the safe and fair side, I say communicate with him about this. Tell him what you are thinking and how you feel. Don't corner him, because that can spark dishonesty, but confront him in a respectful way. But definitely talk to him.
2006-06-09 23:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_bella06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gut is usually right that something is going on. How much is going on is where you might be wrong. YOu sense that there is an attraction. And you're probably right there. But the alarm bells are ringing if he seems to be "running into him" outside of work. Then your overactive imagination might be taking over sensing that something more is going on when it might not be. I had that same gut feeling once. My gut was right. I don't think they ever had an affair, but I think they came close.
2006-06-09 23:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by ThatLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your own instinct dear and never doubt...that is one extra sense we woman have that man doesn't. If your instinct tell you that something wrong...than there is something wrong. trust me, from my own experience, my gut instinct always wright all the time and never fail.
I wish that im your friend, so i can go and spy for you and beat the cheese out of that low life biatch.
good luck with whatever decision that you are about to make, however i totally and 100% believe that you deserve a better man with a better life.god bless
2006-06-10 06:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by howlovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your husband for now until he proves otherwise! I am sorry he has kept this from you! I would talk to him and see why he has not told you about this before and why he felt he had to hide it from you! Ask him if he was cheating or flirting with her! I sure hope he wasnt
2006-06-09 23:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to have solid evidence is to get it yourself.....start playing detective, it's easier than you think. And when you have enough, dump him. Leave...he'll come after you if he really wants you....
2006-06-09 23:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants her and she's gonna give him what he wants .......
men dont share details.....unless it is to be closer with a women which he wants to get into her pants
2006-06-09 23:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by ibjuscoolin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur just being paranoid.....jus look and feel what is happening around you girl..ok..
2006-06-09 23:16:25 · answer #10 · answered by nicegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋