Was wondering if any mother out there with a child that was born?

Question

with some sort of something wrong-such as autism or mentally challenged or any type of defect. I wonder if while you were pregnant and before you knew conclusively that there was a problem did you "feel" like something was wrong or were you shocked to find out?

Answer 1

I have an 11 year old son who is high-functioning autistic. I don't remember having specific feelings of anything being wrong during pregnancy. But he was born breach (butt first) after 38.5 hours of labor and wasn't breathing for 5 minutes after birth. Because of the areas of his brain that are affected and because the damage is minimal there is no way to know if his brain formed this way during development or whether it was because he was deprived of oxygen. He is not mentally challenged, is extremely intelligent and even borders on genius level in his visual/spatial skills. We knew he was a difficult infant (couldn't handle stimulating situations) but didn't think of the possibility of a problem until he was around 2.5-3 years old and still couldn't speak (he babbled in his own little language). Speech and Occupational therapy began at age 3. Today he continues to attend speech therapy at school but functions in a mainstream classroom with a special education support teacher by his side. He speaks clearly with just a few grammatical irregularities. I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you're worried, don't be. We were young and poor when our son was born and somehow managed to make it work. A child with special needs can bring some of the biggest blessings into you life. I always say that my son has taught me the kind of person I want to be. And he's an amazingly attentive big brother to his three younger siblings ages 7, 5, and 2.

Answer 2

I have a 5 month old daughter that was born with a heart defect and throughout my pregnany I knew something was wrong. I just felt it. I also have 3 year old twin girls and throughout my pregnancy I worried wether or not they would be healthy but that is normal to worry a little but with my youngest I just knew. god willing she will be okay after open heart surgery but I had this feeling for my entire pregnany that something just wasn't right.

Answer 3

i had a set of twins and i did not know anything was wrong with them.. but i was so big and full of fluid..but the twins had something wrong with them and so they died at birth..i think it is probably better that it happened this way, even though i took it hard at the time..i never got to see them , the doctor would not let me or even let me out to go to their funeral...other than this i really do not know.. seems like they know more now if a child has something wrong with it... i heard recently that a woman was carrying a child that had died in the womb and the poor girl had to go in and have her labor started...i think this would of been so hard..as soon as they knew something was wrong with mine they knocked me out so i do not know much after the first baby was born.....

Answer 4

This may not answer your question, but I hope it will help. I often had feelings that something was wrong when I was pregnant. My little boy is perfectly normal. I think it's a hormone thing that causes pregnant women to think this.

Answer 5

yes.i did have a feeling something was wrong. i was very shocked. i felt so bad. also, i really felt like an pregnant animal. i didn't feel good becuase morning sickness. it was aful. i only have one and that's all.just that one. please ,being pregnant isn't fun at all.the things you used to do you want be able to do at all . my daughter is two months, going on three this month.her name is ariel nichole lazzandra precuois dowden.a-k-a- angel,lucy and cinnamon.

Answer 6

My mum wasnt shocked when she found out that my brother would have delayed everything. And she could tell that something was wrong its something mums can pick up.