Sexually abused as young as 5 yrs thur 17yrs old,now 50yrs later..I'm a mess.The damage is done.I want to start over?
2006-06-09 16:01:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
So if you lived this lie, and did not tell some one how do you know if confusion will go away?
2006-06-09 16:05:10 · update #1
Oh, I just thought thats why I"am a mess?
2006-06-09 16:06:21 · update #2
Thank You All Very Much,You know you"ve made a difference in my situation and for that I'm very greatfull for your advises.I epecially liked the go see Oprah! ...get over it dude
2006-06-14 06:49:25 · update #3
You are going to have to find a group with other people that have gone through the same experience as you.........that is a good first step....also you do need counselling to help. You are already strong for posting this on here.....asking for help. Go you! xoxoxox It will get better if you reach out more to others and get support. Promise.
2006-06-09 16:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you can see you're not alone! Many of us have been thru similar situations, and have had to deal with it. I found that it affected everything that I did for years. Every relationship was ruined, couldn't keep it together, I was angry, explosive, and very unhappy for many years.
What helped? Jesus is the healer, and He has been slowly healing me over time, a little here and a little there. It's been a long road, but it's nice to finally have let go of the anger and have peace instead. You'll get there, the first step is recognizing that you have a problem, and then you'll start dealing with it. I'd suggest a good Bible believing church, it will do so much for you, get to know who God is, and this will bring healing. You'll make it thru this.
2006-06-20 15:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is going to like this answer but I'll tell you what works. Forgiveness. Forgive yourself and tell yourself that you did nothing to deserve the treatment that you got. Start to believe that you are not at fault in ANY WAY shape or form. That was the sickness of the other person not you. Start to tell yourself that you are a loving and beautiful person inside and out. That you deserve only the best from those outside of you and you will only allow the best to come from you. Talk to yourself and believe that you are worthy and ENTITLED to a good life. The healing starts from the inside, where God lives and is waiting for you to step out on your faith and strength. The mess is in the past, your best life starts now.
2006-06-22 11:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Gloria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i my self was put through the same situation from the age of 5
till the age of 9. the only thing that stopped my abuse was the passing of my abuser. i am now 24 yrs old.and the feelings that i had never went away they just got worse until i turned to a counselor and then to GOD I realized that i can either let it drag me down for the rest of my life or get past it and move on. the best advise i can give to you is take it one day at a time and realize that you are your own person and no one can take that away from you not even those emotions from the past. just hold your head up and realize your not alone.
2006-06-19 00:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nevaeh S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In looking at the answers to your question I agree with those who say that you need to involve yourself with group therapy. I work with military veterans in a group therapy situation and it has fabulous result, not only for them but also for, as I am a veteran and all veterans have common problems that need to be worked through. Talking about your situation with others who have similar experiences can relieve a great many burdens from your shoulders. You will not be judged in group---no one will blame you for anything. You will find the sympathy and encouragement that you need. You will be surprised at how many of your fellow group members believe in God and will make claims of being saved in Christ. In such meeting the Holy Spirit is present and all healing comes by him from God. Jesus loves you very much, and the body of Christ which is the body of believers in Christ also love you. You are not a mess, you just companionship with loving people. Accept Jesus into your heart. With the love of Christ, Preacher.
2006-06-19 08:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by talking about the abuse. It really helps to talk about it. The more you talk the better you will feel. It was not your fault. The only thing you can do is accept that it happened and move on. Maybe go to counseling. They maybe able to give you some insight with other ways to help you feel better. I am really sorry that has happened to you. You will get better!!!!
2006-06-18 19:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by cdmandel2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My nephew went through this. It took a lot of therapy but he is well adjusted, now. Get involved with a group, just knowing you are not alone will help tremendously.
2006-06-09 17:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to get some counseling. The only way to start over is to talk it over....learn how it's affected you and why and where you go from here.
2006-06-13 23:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by sgtlambsonswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive yourself and more importantly forgive the person who did it to you
2006-06-23 00:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋