I'm really into my bestfriend.I dont know if she feels the same way about me,she has a boyfriend but she doesnt keep in contact with him.I dont know if she jus flirts with me cuz she feels like it or because she feels the same way and wont admit it.
I told a friend and she said she does like me. I told her I want to tell my best friend before school is over.I dont know what to do!
Please someone help me!
2006-06-09 15:48:26 · 15 answers · asked by Aspen 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
How does your friend feel about lesbian or bisexual girls? Is she somebody you trust? Are you sure you want to change the relationship from friendship to romantic? You should ask yourself these questions before telling her you like her. But if you do trust her, are sure you want a romatic thing with her, and she is not close minded about lesbians or bi girls then you should talk to her about it. You can bring up the topic then somehow get around to telling her you are a lesbian (if you are) and that you have even thought about asking her out on a date. Don't be heart broken if she says no, just wants to be friends, or says that she doesn't have the same feelings as you do. She might even say that she has thought about it too. But yes or no you will have gotten to say what's on your mind. Much luck. Tell us what happened or what you desided to do.
2006-06-09 16:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing when I was 17 never told my bestfriend how I felt by the time I was 20 I left the state for lil over a yr when I came back we started hangin out her whole family knew tho cuz they kept tellin her I was in love with her we went out one nite and the nite turned out to be bad but she had asked me that nite when we were arguin if I was in love with her I asked her why she askin me that she said her whole family has been tellin her I was I told her wat if it was true she demanded an answer I told her yes she said she felt the same way we had our thing goin but that didnt stop our friendship we are not together but we are still bestfriends..Im not sayin you are goin to have the same luck I did but keepin your feelins inside will only make you wonder in the long run "wat if" I think you should start by tellin her you want to remain friends regardless of what your about to tell her,after that if she says she dont feel the same just tell her you respect that and you would rather keep her as your bestfriend then losin her. will be tuff but its worth a try
2006-06-10 00:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh this is a hard one. Do you trust your friend enough to know that if you tell her she won't spread your business? Or, do you trust her enough that if you tell her and she's not interested that she will remain your friend? The thing is no matter the sexual orientation this is a tough one. You don't want to turn the other person away but you need to get this off your chest. I'm sorry I really don't have a suggestion ... other than to use your heart. You know if it's the right time or not ... right?
2006-06-09 22:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful here..you cold loose a best friend. You can appear available as hell, if she doesn't take the initiative, leave it alone. Of course, in retrospect, I wish I had let my self be known to a few along the way, and they were my best friends, all of which, later I learned, wanted to get it on with me...we were all so young and had no idea how or if to start it up.
2006-06-09 23:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is just a friend to you right now. Ask her if she wants to get together and hang out. When you are alone that would be the best time for you to try to bring the situaction up. That will be the only way you are going to know her feeling twards you. I know it is had to do but if she is your friend she should understand.
Good luck...
2006-06-10 23:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, been there done that, however she knew how I felt about her. She had a code "didn't date her friends." Friends, we no longer are because she broke her own code -- with a friend of mine and the friend knew how I felt about her. Long story short -- they live in different states with different girlfriend, the friend of mine and I live in the same state. I don't see or hear from either one. When I think of them, I just pray God's protection wherever they are. Would I want to rekindle a friendship with either one -- not sure. Ask me again in about 10 years.
2006-06-10 00:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by cajun7_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell your friend to there face cause an email or a letter u never no that friend of yours could show it 2 every 1 n u don't want that.but i wish u the best of luck
2006-06-20 02:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by nobeslady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first you have to answers these
1. does she know that you're les?
2. is she ok with lesbian?
3. are you ready for the risk if you tell her?
my sugestion is you should try, cuz you wouldn't know if you dont try.
good luck.
2006-06-10 03:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by ..... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came out as a lesbian in High school. I just brought it up casualy, actually we were drunk. I asked if she had ever wanted to kiss a girl... then go for it!
2006-06-09 22:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by runningwhilescreeming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide what is more important because if you cross the line and it doesn't work out it will be hard for you two to go back to normal again!
2006-06-18 17:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by K SHINE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋