I see so many posts about married people cheating, my kids all have friends whose parents cheated or got divorced and kids are growing up in single parent homes....I don't get it. I married my husband because I love him and respet him. If there is a problem in our marriage we talk it out...What is going on?
Why does it seem that this is now the exception and not the rule.
2006-06-09 15:35:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Great question! I wish more people would take the vows more seriously this really needs to be done! Would be a much better world if they did and if they truley meant the vows when they sad them before God! People are selfish and are always trying to change the other person instead of being unselfish and trying to change themselves to be the spouse they need to be for each other! If people would grasp what real love and commitment is marriage statistics for divorce would be way lower! What is going on here is hard hearts and selfish people not wanting to stick things out and work on them! People are lazy today and want everything in life to be easy but nothing in life is easy! People dont take their vows seriously and that is scary and sad! There should be not exception to the rules and the word divorce should not even be in the marriage dictionary!
2006-06-09 15:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree it would be a better world if more people took their vows more seriously. I do believe that some of it has to do with how easy it is to get divorced these days. I think that some people get married with the mind set that if it doesn't work out between us, then we can just get a divorce. Years ago it was extremely hard to get a divorce and the judges frowned upon it. Now it's an every day occurrence.
As for the cheating, it has always gone on, but now that divorces are so easy to get, people are divorcing because of the cheating. In the old days, people had to work things out or just live with what their spouses did. Period.
I believe in divorce IF there is no other way to get things to be different, if your life is being threatened by what your spouse is doing, if your spouse beats you all the time, etc. I ended up divorcing not only because my ex cheated on me almost the whole 21 years we were together, but also because he was abusive, abused drugs, thought it was his right to do what he wanted with whom he wanted when he wanted, etc. I could not live with this. I went into the marriage with the mindset that it would be forever, not temporary. I worked very hard at making the marriage work, but he refused to work on it. A lot of people, especially cheaters, don't seem to realize that it takes two to make it work and it only takes one to destroy everything that has been worked on/towards. I have since found someone that believes like I do: marriage is sacred and not to be taken lightly and cheating is not acceptable. My fiance treats me like a queen, just like every woman should be treated.
These are just my thoughts, opinions, and experiences.
2006-06-09 22:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so agree with you. This world is full of temptation and weak people. i myself would never cheat and hate cheaters. i think marriage should be forever except for physical or verbal abuse.
2006-06-09 22:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that I can't speak for everyone but I can tell you that I take them very seriously myself. I do not cheat nor do I plan to. I am very happy and my husband is very good to me and to our children.
2006-06-09 22:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by I love the flipflops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple really. people think that once your marriad you do not have to actually (WORK) on the marriage. things like communication, respect they all get tossed out the window shortly after the I do.
2006-06-10 00:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sully 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many now in this day as well as time seem to forget gods rule on this matter very sad to think of .
2006-06-10 01:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW THAT I TAKE MY MARRIAGE VOWS VERY SERIOUSLY AND IN MY ENTIRE MARRIAGE HAVE NEVER DID ANYTHING TO DECEIVE, DISRESPECT OR PUT DOWN MY HUSBAND
2006-06-09 22:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The escape clause is too easy.
"If you can't hack it, get your jacket."
The sacrifice of two wills for one is rarely taught and virtually ignored.
what have you done for ME lately...
Me first, you second. Instead, it should be you first, me second.
2006-06-10 00:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its complex We don't know how to communicate, tolerate, being
reasonable, To selfish, vindictive etc...
2006-06-09 22:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋